The pleasures of intellect are calm, beautiful, sublime, ever enduring and climbing upward to the borders of the unseen world. I have teen children and a husband who is a very private person, and whom I respect greatly. And, I am also very private about this part of my life as well. So, I have decided to write about some of the expressions of love that make me feel really close to my husband and even some that apply to friends and family , which have nothing to do with sex.
And believe me when I say that I believe these sensual experiences are what almost every woman and possibly man secretly or not-so secretly desires and needs in a relationship much more than sex. So here it is: No one wants intimate details of their sex life spread around in rumor fashion—be it oral, written, or through any other method.
I know I do! Sometimes it is just holding one another and other times it is when we are merely watching television and I have my head on his lap. I think this may just be one of the most important signs of true love. I am not judging anyone who has had one, but people who are after a one night stand or are in a relationship with you for reasons other than love are probably not going to hold you all night.
Having My Hair Brushed or Played with. I love it when my husband plays with my hair with his hands or uses a brush on it. This is something that makes me feel so good and relaxes me down to the core of my being. By this I do not mean torturous, hold-me-down tickles—I hate those! By this I mean being nice to me by lightly touching my face, back, arms, or hands.
Guess he must know me better than I know myself in some ways. To be truthful, I have always traded tickles with good friends and my sister too! This seemingly little display of affection can go a long way. If we are taking a walk, watching a movie, eating out, or simply sitting on the couch this can be so comforting to me.
I feel attached to my love in a way that I am okay with in public. Like I said, we are private people. Of course I told him that they were freezing, and I think he got a kick out of my answer and respected me a little more that day that I stood up to him!
Who could leave out kissing? A short hello or goodbye kiss or a longer one that might just lead to something more. Kissing is an art form all in itself. A kiss with a slow build up or just a small kiss that leaves you wanting more— either are nice. And I will say no more, as I promised I was not going to talk about sex.
Kissing is like drinking salted water. You drink, and your thirst increases. Eye contact is something that most of us know about but the effects are hard to put into words. There is nothing more appealing than seeing the person you love looking directly into your eyes while you talk with one another or just be. This tells me that the other person has a vested interest in what I am saying and is really listening to me or being there for me.
I think I even cried when I opened it. In my opinion, a much better option than sending an e-card or letting Hallmark say what you are thinking is to buy a blank card and to write your own words in it. Better yet—make a card! I have saved every written letter and card that I have received since I was seven years-old.
It means that much to me! I know what they say about men being able to tolerate fewer words per day than women, but talking is such a turn on—somebody who cares about my thoughts, dreams, hopes, problems, and desires. Yep—this is a biggie for me as well. I would think so. This one works in another way too. Sometimes, I just need a hug or someone to hold me and no words need to be exchanged to understand where they are coming from.
Everyone deserves the truth and owes it to their mate to tell the truth. There is nothing less disheartening than finding out that someone has lied to you.