Share Tweet Pin It Anal sex is not something many discuss in the open. Having anal sex is a personal choice and one that may cause friction if not thoroughly considered. The truth is something that you may not want to hear: There is no way around it.
There are, however, many things that can make anal sex more pleasurable for a woman. With all the right conditions and precautions, some women do find it pleasurable.
Anal sex is much like smoking. Not what you are expecting, it can be more painful than you anticipate. How anal sex feels physically When a woman has anal sex, the sensation is intense. Similar to the feeling of passing a bowel movement after being constipated, it is not a pleasurable feeling at first. The first time is always the most overwhelming. Once the penis is fully inside the anal cavity, the pressure seems to ease up and so does the overwhelming nature of it.
If you can get past the anal opening, everything seems to become reasonable. At the same time that she is feeling pain, there can be an odd excitement and pleasure that is unmistakable.
Pressing up against the clitoris from the inside out, if done with patience and care, an intense orgasm can be something that gets a woman hooked. Does anal sex have to be painful? It can be confusing to a woman why a man might want to have anal sex over vaginal sex. Feeling so much more raw, unemotional, and hurtful, anal sex can produce some negative mentalities for women. Making it more difficult for a woman to come to terms with are the images that most people see of anal sex.
If you see anal sex in porn, it seems so degrading. Women appear to be doing things that are purely for the pleasure of the man they are with. Often going from one hole to another, which is a no-no for health reasons, and then sometimes even into the mouth, there appears to be nothing loving or caring about it. When a man wants to have anal sex with a woman, it feels as if he not only wants to violate her, but that he is also okay with hurting her.
Fraught with anxiety and fear, anal sex is rarely something that a woman dreams of doing. Likely, the reverse act would not turn them on very much. The key is going to be being prepared both physically and mentally. That means fully discussing why you want to do it, how to communicate through it, and what needs to be done to make it more pleasurable for your mate.
A bad anal experience is not only one that can result in damage to your body, but it can do severe damage to any relationship. The anus was not created for sex, so it will not self-lubricate like the vagina. If you are going to have anal sex, it is going to require a lot of lube. How to use lubricants to liven up your sex life instantly ] 2 Go slowly and gently. The first time you try anal sex, it may be very intense and probably overwhelming.
When I say slow, I mean slow, inch by inch. If it hurts, a woman needs to know that even though she said yes, she is always able to put a stop to it at any point.
Both parties need to feel comfortable and on board throughout the entire experience. A guide on effective communication in a relationship ] 4 Start with other toys. There are a ton of sexual toys on the market that can help to desensitize the anal area so that she will be more prepared for when you have anal sex.
Invest in some anal sex toys, specifically ones designed for first anal experimentation. If you warm up the area before going full force, she will know if she wants to continue. It takes many tries to get anal sex right. Just be open to giving it time and being patient.
Risks and dangers in anal sex: What to watch out for ] No matter what you see in porn, anal sex is not something that you just jump into. If there is not a lot of talk about it beforehand, it can ruin even the strongest relationship. The bottom of it: No matter what, just be sure the two of you are in it together. Liked what you just read? The Anonymous Kitty is a naughty secret.