Some of us like to be spanked, sat on and slapped; others like slow, considered love-making. Beall is open about the need for diversity, calling out for queer, non-normative couples to showcase their sex lives in order to remove the element of fetishisation too often associated with trans porn stars. The future of online sexual content is in our hands — here, ahead of her talk tonight at Chandelier Creative in NYC , Gallop explains why we should all share our experiences of love, not porn.
It was then that I realised I had to take this initiative forward in a way that would make it far-reaching, helpful and effective. So, what I decided to do was to socialise sex; to make it socially acceptable and just as shareable as anything else on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
The first stage of this mission was MakeLoveNotPorn. We get vulnerable when we get naked, and sexual egos are fragile. How do you think we could make sex education more honest?
Our approach to sex education is that you can never start talking about sex too early, and that has to start in the home. Just answer honestly and open that line of communication, because it is important and they will be grateful. What we want to do is then open this up to sex educators worldwide in the broadest possible sense — education on love, intimacy, relationships, sexual health, and you can submit via videos, papers, writing, whatever it is.
What I mean by that is that, currently, we are real world sex video sharing, but we want to include celebrations of body-positivity and relationships in terms of photography, art, and writing.
We want to enable you to share socially anything that would currently get you kicked off Instagram, blocked from Facebook or deleted from Tumblr — which is any form of healthy, normal, natural sexual self-expression. The third area is crafted content. We want to have these artists profit from honest, crafted sexual content. We want to present a real world counterpoint, not just to porn, but other areas of popular culture — Hollywood, for example.
What are you into? Is it OK if I do that? Great sex stems from great communication, and the more open, authentic and honest we are in portrayals of sex — in every aspect of popular culture — the better off we are as a society. Are people finding empowerment through MakeLoveNotPorn? We do have people filming solo masturbation videos that tell us that filming that made them love themselves more.
Couples tell us it transforms their relationship because, when you decide to film yourselves having sex for the first time, you have to talk about it. Socially sharing your real world sex is just as transformative and beneficial for people as socially sharing everything has been.
We're building a community around shared sexual values and that is extraordinarily powerful because my start up is a manifestation of my own personal beliefs and philosophies. I believe that everything in life and business starts with you and your values.
Do you think the distinction between art and porn is damaging? When you have a world-changing idea, you have to change the world to fit it, not the other way round. Ultimately, sex is a fundamental part of who we are.