Feeling the pressure yet? She will not expect you to marry her or anything like that. She will remember making love the first time with you for the rest of her life. Some girls are simply fed up with their virginity and just want to get over it - and that's fine. Others want to wait till marriage or a committed relationship, and that's fine. And others want to wait till they're deeply in love - and that's fine too. But for most girls, rather than being deeply in love with their first guy, they need to like and trust the man they're choosing to gift with their virginity.
A whole weekend is even better because this gives you unrushed time to create that special "to. Second, cut any distractions. Turn off your phones. Turn off the TV.
Lovemaking is a an emotional experience for any woman; these emotions are magnified for a virgin — so make sure she feels emotionally safe with you.
This will relax her big time - any virgin is incredibly self-conscious about her naked body especially her boobs. The prospect of being naked in front of you in full light will very likely petrify her. To ease her tension even further, spend plenty of time cuddling before getting undressed. Now it's a good time to talk about some of her fears paralyzing fears, most likely unexpressed and possibly unconscious: Even if she initially was all for abandoning her virginity, if she has a change of heart - go with it; the more you allow her to be in control, the more she'll trust you.
Before soon she'll be ready to have another go. As you slowly undress her, take your time to explore her body with your hands. Put her mind at rest - tell her how much you like her beautiful body. Tell her you love her breasts. Tell her she's sexy and exciting - this is something you should do when making love the first time with any woman, and especially with a virgin one. Tease her lovingly and make her laugh - laughing relaxes her and dissolves any tension she might feel about making love the first time.
Say something funny or have a silly pillow fight. Everybody knows how a valuable skill it is to be able to make women laugh.
As famous sex-symbol Marilyn Monroe said, "If you can make a woman laugh, you can make her do anything". Stifle your instinct to go fast or rough. Virgins have a tendency to bail out when they get even a little scared, so avoid being insensitive or verbally aggressive. No, this is NOT the time for dirty talking. When making love to a virgin remember that French kissing is a must.
Because French kissing is the most arousing type of kissing. Don't touch the spot between her legs too soon - in fact, you want her begging for it; tell her you won't touch her there until she takes your hand and put it there when she's ready - this literally melts any anxiety she may still feel. Give her LOTS of sexual foreplay — fingering is one of the best techniques. Start by caressing the outer lips of her virgin pussy, then make your way to the clit and rub it very softly.
Alternate clitty rubbing with sliding gently inside her first a finger, then two. This gets her more comfortable with penetration, further easing her anxiety.
Use proper lubrication for this step see below - you'll glide inside very smoothly and much more pleasurably. Want to rock her world beyond her wildest expectations? Get some advanced training with this oral sex techniques tutorial. Escalating her arousal like this lowers her sensitivity to any pain or discomfort she may feel when you finally enter her.
Slide inside inch by inch while kissing and caressing her to fully open her up. As you move in and out, thrust slow and steady, shallow rather than deep to avoid causing lacerations and chafing.
Secret tip on how to have great sex and the best cure for premature ejaculation when making love to a virgin: This allows you to avoid ejaculating and losing your erection too quickly so you can last comfortably as long as you need to. And, depending on her unique genital anatomy and the positioning of her hymen she may bleed or she may not - not all girls do.
But the pain or discomfort can be easily diminished with proper lubrication and using good sex positions for first-time lovemaking, which give optimal body balance and minimize any painful friction. Because getting a genital rash or a yeast infection due to a low-quality lube is going to be a sexual boo-boo of epic proportions for a virgin girl.
When it comes to good lube you really must be choosy. Look for a non-allergenic one like Nooky Lube or SmoovLube.
Both of these are not only silky-smooth, slide-safe, completely odorless, tasteless and easy to clean, but also free of any irritating chemicals like petroleum, glycerin or parabens. Wet, not damp - but not dripping either because too much lube will diminish the stimulation. If she isn't lubricated enough or tensed, or rushed , her vagina will not stretch comfortably causing more pain and even tearing.
Avoid cheaper lubricants like KY Jelly as they get tacky pretty quickly and avoid using your saliva it's too watery and totally ineffective or massage oil it's too greasy. As you put on a condom just before intercourse which you absolutely should , be sure to use a water-based lubricant which both Nooky Lube and SmoovLube mentioned above are , to avoid the risk of condom breakage.
The best position for first-time sex with a virgin? Girl-on-top, as it gives her complete control over the angle of movement and depth of penetration.
You can also try doggy-style, but you must compensate for the lack of visual connection: Regardless of the position you use and how sensual your lovemaking may be, just keep in mind that a virgin woman won't probably experience a jaw-dropping, toe-curling orgasm when she makes love the first time. To enhance her experience, take some extra time and enjoy some tender afterplay.
Hug her lovingly and hold her close, stroke and kiss her tenderly, let her know how much you enjoyed her body and making love with her. She needs to feel that she's making love with an experienced guy who can teach her the art of love making; don't disappoint her.
Teach her how to relax into the new sensations. Show her how to have great sex by giving her feedback when you like something she does. Instead, guide her hand to your pleasure spots showing her what you like. Talk softly to her telling her what you want her to do to you and how you want her to do it. She'll be oh-so-turned-on when you give her directions! Plus, you'll later enjoy lovemaking customized to your preferences. As she's exploring the new sensations it is normal for her to be a little passive.
Reassure her that you know what you're doing - soon, she will be writhing in pleasure under your touch. This gives you a greater sense of confidence about being able to give her a pleasurable experience making love the first time. Remember that making love to a virgin is not something that happens to you everyday; you'll want to be prepared for this art of love making with these simple but extremely powerful skills - this way you'll be able to give your girl the unforgettable experience she deserves and expects of you.
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