No one joked about female masturbation. While we still have some way to go, before female masturbation is discussed and accepted in the same way male masturbation is, I for one am thankful that we are moving forward, speaking out and striving to reach the point where it is deemed normal and acceptable.
It seems that now we are on board with women owning a sex toy or three. After all, she is taking ownership of her own pleasure. I have many girlfriends who would not be ashamed to admit that she owned a sex toy, heck women even throw parties to discuss and purchase sex toys. Well you go girl! You can understand my frustration then, when I see society taking two steps backwards when it comes to male masturbation, or more specifically, males getting off with sex toys.
How is it possible that we have gone from this overall acceptance that men masturbate, to shaming them for doing so with a sex toy? Cue laughter, followed by an awkward silence.
What a narrow-minded misconception and unfortunately one that seems to be reasonable common. There seems to be this insinuation that when a man decides to use a sex toy for pleasure, he is only doing so because he has no other choice. Men use sex toys for a whole variety of reasons, including that they provide a unique sensation and feel bloody good.
They use them for solo pleasure and within relationships and his partner may enjoy using them on him as much as he enjoys receiving.
This is certainly the case in my relationship. Men do not buy sex toys because they have no other choice. Is it any wonder that they feel uncomfortable purchasing sex toys, let alone admitting to using them, when this is the kind of shaming they are likely to face? Our sexual proclivities have no bearing on our sexual orientation.
It is who we decide to enjoy our sexuality with, that does. Aside from the fact that the anus contains many nerve endings that respond positively to touch for both males and females , men are also blessed with an erogenous zone located inside the anus The prostate and stimulating it feels intensely enjoyable. I could talk about this for hours, but I shall save this doozy for another day. Sex toys are inanimate objects, used to provide a sensation that feels good.
Of course, we have our hands, our lips and tongues, but there is nothing wrong with adding more variety. Whether playing solo, or coupled up, sex toys bring something new to the equation, complimenting the encounter, heightening it. Kind of like adding cream to your strawberries, adding sex toys to your sessions provides a new flavour, a new sensation and a little bit of indulgence. Why should anyone miss out on that based on some narrow minded misconceptions?
He was not immune to the shaming and feelings of embarrassment surrounding the use of a male sex toy. Of course, he knew I owned female sex toys and was happy to incorporate them into our sex life, but this was a whole new ball game.
He wondered why he needed one, since his hand worked just fine and when I pointed out that I reach orgasm in a variety of different ways toys, fingers, tongue he understood. He finally decided to give it a bash Stop giggling at the back and it was breathtakingly sexy, watching him writhing with pleasure, feeling him throb and twitch as I listened to his breathy moans. He really enjoyed it and it was one of the hottest experiences of my life.
I admired him in that moment, just as I admire all guys who have stood up against the bullshit, purchased a sex toy and indulged in some mind blowing pleasure. If you are curious about purchasing your first sex toy, take a look through our male sex toy reviews. My partner highly recommends the following products; I want a masturbation sleeve that looks and feels similar to the real thing: In our experience, no sex toy feels exactly like the real thing, but the Fleshlight Range manages to come closest, with its soft, skin-like material.
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