My husband is driving me crazy. Yes, guys think this sort of thing. In spite of all evidence to the contrary.
There are communication issues. Possibly, one or both of you is shy about talking openly about sex. Your husband is being passive aggressive. So, as usual, say it with me, guys, I recommend that you talk openly to him about your feelings in an empathic and non-attacking way, in which you are genuinely curious about his feelings and openly expressive about your own. This could go like this: Hey, I want to talk about last night.
You tried to have sex with me when I was asleep, and this made me feel pretty annoyed. I was really tired and it also startles me when you do that. I was just cuddling. Well, to me it felt like you were initiating sex. I want us to work this out. I would love you to do that to me, but it would never happen anymore. Okay, so are you unhappy with how much sex we have? I really love that site. You guys start to make out, buoyed by your common love of this blog. Okay, I went off the rails a bit there at the end, but you got my point, right?
Be direct, non-attacking, and non-defensive and you will be able to resolve this issue and stop losing sleep over it, figuratively and literally.
By the way, if your husband is a reader, have him read Wanting Sex Again so he can understand how women need to be relaxed and to feel safe in order to open up sexually, versus being pounced on in their sleep.
Read on Dirty And Thirty! Healthy, Effective Communication Techniques for Your Changing Family This blog is not intended as medical advice or diagnosis and should in no way replace consultation with a medical professional.
If you try this advice and it does not work for you, you cannot sue me. This is only my opinion, based on my background, training, and experience as a therapist and person Facebook Comments.