Ways to drive a man wild in bed 1 Give him pleasure with sex, masturbation and oral sex with energy and enthusiasm! This simply means - be uninhibited. Find out what he likes, and go for it. He'll certainly appreciate the attention and the sexual energy. For example, he will want you to handle his penis more firmly than you would ever consider handling your clitoris - don't make the mistake of assuming that what's good for you will also be good for him.
It may not be. Ask him to show you what he likes, and then ask him to tell you if you're doing it right.
Having said that, a feather light touch on his penis with a wet hand can be exquisite, and may excite him greatly: When you're sucking his cock, do it with enthusiasm.
If you genuinely don't like giving him fellatio, it's probably better to tell him this and see if you can work through the problem together than to try and fool him into thinking you're enjoying it. Men are extremely keen on fellatio, and they see it as the ultimate expression of acceptance by a woman. It's important to him that you do it right - so try different movements of your lips and tongue, and listen to his moans of pleasure to tell you what you should focus on and how he likes to be stimulated in your mouth.
There's no room for restraint in giving to each other sexually, between two people who are in love, especially when this very intimate act can make him feel deeply loving towards you - not to mention extremely sexually satisfied!
If you play with these as you masturbate him or give him oral sex, and especially as he ejaculates, you'll increase his pleasure and the intensity of his orgasm a great deal. If he's willing, a finger up his anus but make sure you use plenty of lube can add greatly to his pleasure when he reaches orgasm, especially if you massage his prostate.
Though he may have some inhibitions about anal play, which is fair enough - it's not everyone's ball-game - if you can persuade him to experiment, he may find that it's something he wants to do more often. Many men know this already, having discovered during masturbation that a finger on the anus or inside it adds a lot to the experience, but he might be a bit shy about sharing this with you.
Just check it out by asking him if he'd like to try it! Don't be afraid to act like a rude girl in bed! Nothing kills sexual excitement faster than boring routine. Well, that may not be true if both partners are happy with routine and find it fulfilling, but most couples like to have a bit of spice from time to time. So - shed your inhibitions.
Cast them to the winds! If you're a woman who thinks girls should all be "good" in bed, then try something different -talk dirty, thrust vigorously when he's on top, take the initiative instead of letting him lead during sex, get on top of him and ride him like a cowgirl, try dressing up in sexy clothes black suspender belts always seem popular with men , or visit the sex shop together Surprise him with a romantic holiday in a luxury hotel or a camping trip with a shared sleeping bag.
Anything that gets you in close proximity and ready to relax, without worrying about the pressures of day to day life can do wonders for your sex life. If you have it in the afternoon, try it at night. You get the idea. Book time for sex together in your schedule and try doing it at a time when you usually don't think of it They are turned on by what they see, and this includes you!
It may turn your man on even faster if you dress up for him in a way that he finds sexually exciting. This might mean stockings and suspenders, it might mean blue gym knickers, or it might mean a nurse's uniform, or indeed anything else. Whatever it is, accept it as part of his sexuality - if you find it amusing, don't laugh about it: Besides, you might want to confide your fantasy in him one day, and you wouldn't want him to laugh about it, would you?
If you really don't like the role you're being asked to play, then tell him, and see if you can find something that does turn you on. You may find acting out your fantasies is very exciting and adds a massive thrill to sex. You'll find that if you surprise him with an assertive approach to sex from time to time you can turn him on more than you thought possible - but he has to understand the rules of the game: You might even want to turn this into fantasy play - he has to do everything you say for an evening.
In any event, if you seduce him, strip him, mount him, and ride him on top, he'll certainly enjoy it. This kind of role reversal is also helpful for women to discover and express their own powerful sexuality.
Yet if you try some new positions for sex, you may find the whole thing becomes much more exciting for you both - at the very least, you'll have fun trying the positions out and seeing what they feel like! Another thing to experiment with is the use of sex toys. These can add greatly to your pleasure, make it easier for a woman to come, and help a man to discover erogenous zones he didn't know he had.
For example, a vibrating anal bullet can stimulate a man's prostate and add a lot of pleasure to his orgasm. Whatever the reason for this, it can be turned to your advantage by making your man so grateful for the pleasure you give him he'll be happier to do whatever you want - sexually and possibly otherwise!
High on the list of pleasures for a man is to masturbate by thrusting between his partner's well-lubed breasts. You get a great view too, though watch out for his ejaculation - you don't want semen in your eyes. There are times when a man's need for sex can be as powerful and fundamental as his need to drink and eat - and that may not match his partner's sexual drive. This potential mismatch is the downside of the male sex drive.
Powerful as it is, it needs some form of expression - and one of the ways you might choose to let your partner express his sexuality is by giving him a quickie once a week: Sure, you'll need lube, but as long as you don't feel like a sex object, and you recognize that he gets great pleasure from being able to do this with the woman he loves, or at least respects, then it can be a great way to keep a man happy.
In return, you have every right to expect him to be sensitive to your needs for romance and affection. If he isn't - tell him what you want! Men don't respect manipulative strategies around something that's so important to them, and women probably don't appreciate the resentment that it causes. Of course, men can be guilty of this as well, so the real answer is for both partners to learn how to communicate openly and naturally.
Competence is important to a man, and he usually finds some field in which he can show you his talents. No matter how simple this is, the best thing you can do to make him feel fulfilled is to respect him for this - and all the other things he does for you, and for who he is and what he gives you.
By respecting him, he is much more likely to express his love for you because he feels more of a man. When he feels like that, he's more likely to give you the cherishing love you expect and deserve. If you're straightforward, direct and assertive, you're much more likely to get a man's attention, respect and love than if you act "small", or come over as passive and weak.
This includes sex, where it is quite OK for you to show masculine energy assertive, direct, initiating, demanding, leading and dominant as often as you care to. You don't have to be a weak, pathetic, feminine thing all the time. In fact, it's better for both of you if you aren't. Above all, don't criticize him, if, for example, you're on your way to orgasm and you suddenly lose it.
No matter how irritated this makes you feel, you gotta assume he didn't; do it deliberately to frustrate you, and if you criticize his efforts, you might find he's less willing to do it again.
Most men sadly don't last especially long during sex, and they need to be motivated to change. If you're with a man who can't or won't learn to last longer, then you might want to adapt. Tell him you won't tolerate selfish behavior during sex, and you want to have an orgasm! The way to do it is this: He will appreciate the warmth and wetness of your vagina, and though this may make him come even more quickly, at least you get an orgasm before he enters you.
If he says he'll fuck you first, then give you an orgasm, remember that men tend to lose interest once they have ejaculated. There are ways for him to discover how he can last longer in bed, which involve controlling premature ejaculation by slowing down how quickly he gets aroused during sex. The longer he can hold himself at a level of arousal below the point where he will ejaculate, the better sex will be for both of you.
It can be sexy fun to exchange fantasies, but it's a good idea to have a "no-laughing" agreement before you start. If your fantasies involve bondage make sure you have a safe word "sultana" or something equally irrelevant to sex so that you absolutely know when "no" when your partner means "no".
The thrusting motion of the penis is not conducive to female pleasure since it does not stimulate the clitoris. There's no point pretending that you're having an orgasm if you're not: And if you do pretend, how will you ever tell him the truth? This really is one of the worst sexual deceits there is not up there with having an affair, true, but pretty bad all the same. Get your orgasm before he enters you, and then enjoy the friction and sense of fullness when he fucks you.
If you come, perhaps from having a G spot orgasm, it's a bonus. You can't really imagine how important it is to your man that you suck his penis. Taking his cock in your mouth is a sign of complete acceptance of him and his maleness, it feels very good indeed, and he likes the way it looks when you do it!
Of course he may get carried away, so you set the boundaries - tell him what is and isn't OK with you. If you don't want to swallow, then don't: He loves it- the taste, the scent, the appearance, in fact everything about it.
You should love it too, and keep it fit with Kegel exercises. This will increase both your pleasure and his, as you grip him while he makes love to you, or before, during and after his orgasm. If you're lucky enough to be able to come through vaginal intercourse, then fit cunt muscles will increase your pleasure enormously.
Apply it to both of your hands, then loop the fingers and thumb of one of your hands around the bottom of the shaft of his penis - your fingers and thumb will then encircle it. Sweep your fingers up to the glans of his penis in a single movement. When you reach the top, rotate the palm of your hand across his glans in a smooth motion, so that the soft skin of your palm circles and moves sensuously over his glans.
Then return your looped fingers and thumbs to the base of his penile shaft and repeat! This can be exquisite. Move your thumbs together, but make sure you leave a space wide enough for his cock between your fingers and thumbs. Then run your hands up and down his penile shaft, with his cock poking out between your intertwined fingers and your thumbs, possibly adding to his pleasure with a series of twisting, side-to-side rotations when you get to his glans.
This all-encompassing technique will probably make him come rather quickly! Slide your well-lubed fingers and thumb up and down his shaft, over his coronal ridge, and pull upwards slightly as you go.
Don't go right over the glans, just stop at the ridge.