I'm pretty chipper and spry for an ole gal of 73, but I have a question. Both my husband and I have bad knees. We're okay for most things, including golf and working in the yard, but sex is sometimes a challenge. We used the old reliable missionary position when we were first married, but found a few more tried and true ways to do it. Now that we are getting older, what are the best ways to do it?
Whatever position works is the best way. What's that old saying? When it's good, it's very, very good, and when it's bad, it's still good. One variation for older adults is for the man to put most of his upper body weight on his arms to avoid putting all of his weight on the female. A variation on this position is for the woman to sit in a chair or on the edge of a low bed, thus allowing the man to kneel on the floor for thrusting.
For heavyset men, this way can reduce the weight he places upon his partner, and allows for both partners to be able to touch each other's genitals. A good variation is one in which the woman lies on her stomach and the man penetrates her vagina from behind. For many women, this position can stimulate the G-spot. It's not face-to-face, so that is considered a disadvantage for some, but it is still considered very popular among older lovers.
The most common is when she straddles his hips, takes his penis inside her, then lies down or crouches atop him, either with her legs bent or stretched out. Many females, including older women, especially enjoy this position because it allows her to control the speed and grinding motion, thereby allowing the penis to touch areas inside the vagina that might not otherwise be possible. Many men and women have also expressed that two of the nicest things about the "scissors" is that 1 a full erection is not as necessary as with some other positions, and 2 as the man strokes in and out, both the man's and woman's hands can roam freely to touch "all the right places!
Truth is, some seasoned seniors find that the sexual position s they used when they were younger are no longer comfortable or doable. This can be a wonderful motivation to try new sexual positions. One of the secrets, especially for mature lovers, is to understand the fact that sex isn't a competition.
Neither should it be a rut or dead-end. Nor is a gymnastics routine. Ideally, it's not even about orgasms! Seasoned Romance should be focused on intimacy, trust and understanding. This can help turn any position you use during intercourse into a pleasant, fulfilling experience! I've seen your answer about different sexual positions for older lovers.
What about the times when frankly nothing works. There's simply sometimes for my wife and I both 81 when the pleasure isn't worth the pain. What do you recommend for those times. Is there any magic position for us old folks?
There's no magic position. Everyone, especially with age, has times when, as you wrote, the pleasure's not worth the pain. However, there is a great solution that works wonders for many older lovers.