They are not intended to provide a sure-fire method of diagnosis, nor can negative answers to these questions provide absolute assurance that the illness is not present. Many sex and love addicts have varying patterns which can result in very different ways of approaching and answering these questions.
Despite this fact, we have found that short, to-the-point questions have often provided as effective a tool for self-diagnosis as have lengthy explanations of what sex and love addiction is. We appreciate that the diagnosis of sex and love addiction is a matter that needs to be both very serious and very private.
We hope that these questions will prove helpful. If you can answer yes to just a few of these questions, it is very likely that you can benefit from our program.
The best way to find out is to attend a few of the many weekly meetings. Each meeting has a different focus and feel to it, therefore it is suggested that you attend at least six meetings before deciding whether S. Have you ever tried to control how much sex to have or how often you would see someone?
Do you find yourself unable to stop seeing a specific person even though you know that seeing this person is destructive to you? Do you make promises to yourself concerning your sexual or romantic behavior that you find you cannot follow? Have you ever felt that you had to have sex? Do you feel desperation or uneasiness when you are away from your lover or sexual partner? Do you feel desperate about your need for a lover, sexual fix, or future mate?
Have you or do you have sex regardless of the consequences e. Do you find that you have a pattern of repeating bad relationships? Do you feel that your only or major value in a relationship is your ability to perform sexually, or provide an emotional fix? Do you feel entitled to sex? Do you find yourself in a relationship that you cannot leave? Have you ever threatened your financial stability or standing in the community by pursuing a sexual partner?
Have you ever had a serious relationship threatened or destroyed because of outside sexual activity? Do you feel that life would have no meaning without a love relationship or without sex? Do you find yourself flirting or sexualizing with someone even if you do not mean to?
Do you engage in the practice of voyeurism, exhibitionism, etc. Do you feel that your sexual and romantic behavior is about as rewarding as hijacking a revolving door?
Are you unable to concentrate on other areas of your life because of thoughts or feelings you are having about another person or about sex? Do you find yourself obsessing about a specific person or sexual act even though these thoughts bring pain, craving or discomfort?
Have you ever wished you could stop or control your sexual and romantic activities for a given period of time? Do you find the pain in your life increasing no matter what you do? Do you feel that you lack dignity and wholeness? Do you feel that your life is unmanageable because of your excessive dependency needs? Have you ever thought that there might be more you could do with your life if you were not so driven by sexual and romantic pursuits?
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