For many people, it does not turn out exactly as planned. If your first time was not how you imagined it or if you are nervous about it happening, we want to ensure you that you are not alone! Although having sex for the first time is a big milestone in your life, we want to urge you not to stress about it being perfect or feel pressured to do it.
The purpose of this article is to give many different perspectives and stories about people having sex for the first time. We want to warn that there are some unsettling stories of how people lost their virginity; we include these stories to emphasize that you should you never feel pressured to have sex. It is absolutely unacceptable for someone to force you to have sex with them, and if you lost your virginity to this type of experience, you are not alone. There are resources and hotlines you can reach out to if you have ever been sexually assaulted or raped.
So we kept having sex. About three minutes later, the doorbell rang again. We still ignored it. Roughly five minutes later, my sister called me and I answered and she said, "Hey sorry to be a cockblock but the pizza guy is here so you need to answer the door. By the time I got back upstairs, my boyfriend was fully dressed and angry that our first time had been ruined. I convinced him to give it another try and we finished the act. I was messing around in online chat rooms geared towards LGBT youth.
Eventually I started talking to a guy in the chat rooms also from my town. We talked for a few weeks and from his pictures I was totally into him. Being an insecure year-old, dark-skinned, black boy in a majority-white area made me desperate for any attention. He was the first one to suggest we meet in person, and after the initial fear of it I agreed to meet him.
I wasn't out at all, so I had to meet him while my parents were at work and my brother was at his friends or something. The day we met, I was extremely nervous. I didn't know how to prepare for sex or even how sex really worked because porn just gets into it without showing any of the behind-the-scenes stuff.
The time came, and the guy pulled up to pick me up and my heart froze. They guy who pulled up was a stout white dude in his late 20's who walked with a distinct limp. I don't even remember the excuse he gave for why he looked different, I was just so scared and caught up in the moment to question him. I don't even know why I got into the car with him.
I think a part of me wanted to punish myself for falling for it, and another part was just so desperate for the attention that I gave myself up to him. I got to his house and figured out that I was really good at mentally checking out. He did a lot of uncomfortable stuff to me that I tried to protest, but the more I resisted the more aware and panicked I became, so I just sat back and waited it out. The whole thing lasted no longer than an hour and he drove me back home and we rarely spoke again afterwards.
It is one of the biggest regrets of my life. He had a single mom and 3 siblings. We were drinking copious amounts of wine as his mom was relatively young and did not care that we drank. Since she knew what she was doing it was definitely not awkward or uncomfortable. It was super natural. Looking back on it, it does seem rather strange, but I do not regret it. That's right, I lost my virginity in a three-way. Now before I get any further I need to disclaim that I am gay.
And us Gays had our own iPhone application long before the days of Tinder, called Grindr, where men went to meet other men. Itching to lose my virginity, I downloaded good-old Grindr and within a few moments, this couple messaged me. They were on vacation in the states— one was from Canada and the other from France. Ironically, one of the guys shared my name. We hung out for a bit. After a while, moves were made, one thing led to another, we moved into their bedroom, and just like that I was turning in my v-card.
The morning after, I experienced sex once more, before having coffee and leaving to never see them again. I often think about it, without regret, because life is short and if I do not have my fun now, I will not have it later. I texted him Friday afternoon, saying that I would be home alone and that he could come over if he wanted to. He agreed, and we decided on I spent my afternoon slightly nervous, unable to do much of anything. I asked him if he was planning on drinking, and he said he was tipsy.
So I decided to drink a bit to calm my escalating nerves. He finally showed up, and we awkwardly exchanged small talk. Finally, he turned to me and asked if he could kiss me. Our clothes were on the floor within a few minutes, and we made our way to my bed. I had put on christmas lights and he reached over and turned off the ceiling light, giving the room a warm glow. It was at that moment we both knew it would happen. He asked me if I wanted to have sex, and I agreed.
I think we were both sober at that point. I saw him putting on the condom and at that moment felt a million different emotions. He climbed over me and we made eye contact. A moment later, it happened. As we were doing it, a single thought crossed my mind: I first met him on my first day in the dorms and we became friends. Mainly, I lost it to this boy because I had a big crush on him. Maybe it was because he had really nice hazel eyes, and I used to be really attracted to pretty eyes.
This was pretty weird because I had not talked to him for a couple of months. Since I had this big crush on him, I was down to hang out. I came over and he was the only one home. We started to watch Ugly Americans on Netflix; at this time I was a big fan of the show. He started snuggling up on me, touching my groin, and all kinds of areas. For me this was exciting. Eventually, this led to us making out on the couch. We went up to his room and this was where everything got really awkward….
We started making out on the bed. And then we took our shirts off. He had a nice six pack but that was the last thing on my mind. I wanted to top for anal sex , but he said I was too violent and big and I would probably hurt him.
I did not want to bottom, but at the same time I was so excited, I just wanted to get over all this sexual tension between us, so I agreed to bottom. After volunteering I realized I was not ready to bottom. So I went into the bathroom to clean myself off. I was taking some time trying to clear myself out.
I also realized I had not shaved down there. I asked him if he had a razor, which caused him to spurt out in impatience. So we just skipped to getting it on. We got back to making out, and he said something about me being a bad kisser. Eventually we planned on actually proceeding to have some form of sex. Overall, it just hurt and he was trying to make me shut up in case his roommates came in. I made him stop and that was that. Throughout the whole experience he was bossy and apathetic.
After that he talked about training me to be better at it. After this I never talked to that guy again, he was disrespectful and I had a bad time. Not really, I mean it is a bummer that I had a bad experience but I got over it, and I am glad I got it over with. There are always more sexual experiences going forward. Sure my first time was not good, but there have been plenty of good times since then… as well as some other bad times too.
We were both super into each other, you know that high school "LOVE. She wasn't a virgin, but I was. It was a big decision for me. I had expected to save my virginity until marriage because my parents extremely stressed abstinence, so I listened for the most part. I remember we undressed each other passionately in front of a fireplace and then the time came to do the deed. I pulled out a condom, it was the first time I had put one on and it was the weirdest thing.