Apr 10, Meredith rated it really liked it Our culture assures both young men and women that sex without attachment or boundaries is healthy. This author, through hundreds of interviews with tweens through college co-eds debunks this myth to prove that sex without responsibility is not only unhealthy, but will set these young people down the slippery slope to emotional and psychological disaster.
Young men, and especially young women, aren't wired to enjoy sex without connection. Feminists got it all wrong, yet again. It us our daughters Our culture assures both young men and women that sex without attachment or boundaries is healthy.
It us our daughters who will pay the heavy burden of the lie of "sexual liberation. The "hook up" culture is shocking but oh so true. Our culture promotes girls to be "independent women" and concentrate on careers before love. What does that leave them with?
The idea that "hook ups" and "one night stands" without feeling is power and makes them immune to hurt and distracting emotions with the opposite sex. Laura Sessi I strongly recommend this to anyone that has a teenage daughter. Laura Sessions Stepp book explains the domino effect of this trend and how it prevents girls and women from learning important life lessons in the long run and leave them feeling empty and confused when it's time to pursue romantic relationships I think it's a good idea for high school girls to read this too.
It's a great look into the everyday pressures that adolescents and hormonal teens are faced with in the 21st Century. Now I have finished the book and the initial impression remains. The choices these girls are making are extremely distressing, but I have to wonder just how many people the scenarios in the book apply to.
While clearly some young women are able to use their bodies as "currency," this never was the case for me- So far what I have learned from this book: I found myself feeling not pity but disgust and annoyance at these protagonists, as a result. So they're pretty and desirable and choose to act like vapid, promiscuous fools--this isn't my problem exactly, is it? I also kept wondering, in the chapters about high school girls, where are the parents?
It shocked me that they seemed to be aware of how their daughters were behaving but didn't feel moved to do too much about it. Sure there were summary "groundings" but when that didn't seem to change much why not make a more severe move, like pulling them out of school and putting them in a single sex academy or something? Surely money was not an object for most of these folks. I can only guess that the parents, too, wanted to be "cool" and that meant not being too strict or restrictive--that's what those uncool prudish conservatives and religious nuts do, right?
Overall I was left with the impression that these girls and the little culture they are part of are causing irreparable damage, and no one wants to be uncool enough to really care and put a stop to it.