While many statistics show that around half of all cis men are dissatisfied with their penis size despite the fact that their partners don't feel the same way , with younger men it often seems even more common. One typical reason is that younger men will often have unrealistic ideas about penises. When you're young, if you're making comparison, they're probably either to only a few different people -- like your Dad, maybe your best friend, maybe a few guys you've seen in passing in the restroom -- when the range of penis size varies enough that to get realistic ideas about it, we've got to be looking at more than just a few penises.
With pornography becoming more and more accessible over the years, more guys are also looking at penises in porn, a really unrealistic place to look since the actors cast in porn don't tend to be the norm at all when it comes to size or how long or often they can become or remain erect for. Is my penis size normal? Let's start by looking at some basic averages, based on broad, credible studies of a variety of men. When you flip through most studies, what you'll usually find is that: The average adult penis flaccid not erect, or soft is around 3 to 4 inches long.
The average adult penis erect hard is around 5. The average adult penis erect is around inches around in circumference. This image based on a study done by Lifestyles condoms can give you a good look at what the size range between men is like.
What size a penis is when it's flaccid not erect doesn't necessarily indicate what size it will be erect. As I explain here , some penises flaccid are very nearly the same size as they are when they are erect, while others are smaller than they are erect. Neither "growers" nor "showers" are better than the other: When looking at studies and statistics on penis size, pay attention to who measured the penises involved.
In studies where people measure themselves and self-report, we usually see larger averages than we do when doctors or nurses are doing the measuring and reporting. As stated in this study by Ansell , where people were not self-measuring, when medical staff are the ones holding the tape measures, average sizes are always below six inches in length. They also note that looking at self-reporting studies, on average people seem to overstate their own penis sizes from a quarter to a half an inch.
If you want to dig around for yourself, the kinds of studies our averages come from here can be found neatly organized in the notes for the Wiki on penis size here. Sammy asks, I'm not exactly worried about my penis size, I'm just wondering if it has stopped growing. I'm only 13, and my penis is about 6. At what age does your penis stop growing?
Memphisboi asks, Does penis growth happen overnight? Is it okay for me to be 3 inches at 13? Cj asks, I'm 15, and when I measure my penis erect its only about 4 and 3 quarter inches long, and then all my friends in locker rooms and stuff has MUCH larger penises, and I feel I am way below average sized, and wondered if it will grow anymore and if theres a chance I may have some type of disorder?
It really concerns me, and I'm scared to get a girlfriend just for the reason it might lead to sex, and my penis is so small it really actually embarrasses me, and lowers my self esteem. I need help on knowing if it will grow anymore, even though my whole body is starting to stop because already im 5'11 and about pounds, and will be 16 in just a few months.
Chrpartyboy asks, I'm thirteen and I have 4 inch penis is that normal, or am I weird? Mavuto asks I'm a 19 year old black guy. I masturbate a lot and overweight. I was wondering if my penis will continue growing? Has all this masturbation got something to do with my size? Those statistics above are, as they say, about fully grown adults , not teens.
We are often asked what the average penis size is for, say, a year-old. The trouble is that where someone is at in puberty isn't the same for people of the same age. For most, penis growth starts anywhere between the ages of 11 and 16, and on average, around 13 or 14 years of age. Before penis growth starts, you'll usually have both a growth spurt in terms of your height, as well as testicle growth.
Penises also will tend to grow faster or earlier in length than they will with width. During the time that young men are going through puberty, before growth is completed, the average penis size for an adolescentof any age varies from between two to five inches. No one asking any of these questions is weird or abnormal: Penis growth doesn't happen overnight: In other words, you may have times of some growth, then a long pause, then some more growth again later.
By the time you're done with puberty, your penis will be done growing. People with penises will usually be done with puberty by the time they're 20 - 25, and when you're done with it can vary, and is influenced by when you started. Overall, someone who starts puberty on the earlier side will usually be done on the earlier side, while someone who started puberty later will usually end it later. Penis growth or size isn't changed by masturbation: What someone weighs also isn't going to have much to do with the size of the penis, though thin men's penises may look bigger in perspective to the rest of their bodies, and larger men's penises may look smaller in the context of the rest of their bodies.
Like most of our bodies, the size of someone's penis is mostly determined by genetics. Just understand that that doesn't mean because your Dad's penis is big or small or tilts this way or that yours will be the same.
Genetics are more complex than what comes from just one parent or family member. There's never been any credible data which shows that the size of someone's feet or hands correlate to penis size, nor that, overall, any one race has a smaller or larger penis size than another. Penis size also can differ a bit for one man from day to day when we're talking about erections.
Not all erections that happen to a given person are the same size all the time. In other words, some days, a person has an erection that's bigger or smaller or harder or softer than it was the last time, perhaps because he's more aroused this time, because of what time of the day it is, even what temperature it is at a given time. Do I have a micropenis? Most men who think they have a micropenis? Purplehazed asks, One of the guys my girlfriend hooked up with before we met was hung like a horse.
From what she describes he had at least an 11 inch penis. She gave him head once or twice and a few handjobs. After i learned about this, it started driving me crazy and I kinda went into a depression.
I know its stupid of me but i feel in-adequate. Is it stupid of me to worry that she'll want something bigger? It almost seems selfish of me to think that way about her when I know she loves me and only me, but I guess its just the male ego complex. Look at an object on your desk where you're reading this right now. Now, get out a ruler and measure it. Were you right in your estimate? When we are asked to visualize a given number of inches without a ruler, many of us are going to err.
A partner is not likely to know the size-in-inches of their partner's penis unless they pulled out a tape measure, or unless that partner told them what it was in which case they may or may not have been honest.
If you hear partners reporting that they have had partners with inch penises, you can be pretty sure they're either not being honest, or their idea of what 11 inches is isn't so accurate.
For those with partners who have vaginas, not penises, know that when most are unaroused, the distance from the vaginal opening to the back of the vagina is around three or four inches. When they become highly aroused, the back of the vagina tents and lengthens that canal, but only by a few more inches. On average, when very aroused, the distance from the vaginal opening to the back of the vagina is about seven inches at a maximum, though it can stretch an inch or two beyond that to accommodate a longer penis than seven inches.
Ashley asks, My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time this past weekend and it was both of our first times. I wasn't expecting much because I had heard that having sex for the first time usually isn't the most pleasurable. Our problem was that for some reason he couldn't go all the way into me, and for me, it felt like there was no way I could hold all of him. He is decent in size and I know I should be able to hold him but every time we tried, he would slip out or he couldn't get all the way in.
What should we do? So, those with larger penises and some even with average-sized penises sometimes , need to bear in mind that it may or may not even be comfortable for partners to have a penis pushed all the way inside an orifice to the base.
That can even be the case with guys who have average-sized penises, especially at times when your partner is nervous or isn't strongly aroused before your penis is on the scene. If we're talking vaginas, when it comes to the most sensitive area of the vagina not her vulva: Further than that, vaginas aren't that rich with sensory nerve endings, so more depth than a few inches can produce some general sensation, but nothing to usually write home about in terms of a targeted wow.
If you engage in anal sex with male partners, it's also only two inches or less inside the rectum to the prostate , the sensitive area inside male bottoms.
In other words, no matter what kind of intercourse you're having with your penis, be your partners male or female, almost everyone has a penis long enough to get to the good stuff. Another big cause of penis worry for younger men appears to be rooted in worries about sex when it hasn't been experienced at all, or when ideas about genital intercourse aren't so sage, like the idea that any given size of penis alone has a lot to do with a partner's sexual satisfaction.
We've said it here a million times before, but I'll say it again: Who knows, maybe your girlfriend is in that minority, in which case even if her ex really did have an inch penis again: It may happen that you have a partner who sometimes wants to feel more "full" than they do with your penis: Whether we're talking about male or female receptive partners, an awful lot of people -- probably including you -- will want more than intercourse or something other than intercourse often enough no matter what size your penis is.
If you have a partner who wants something larger, wider, more curved or more flexible, or to feel a different sensation than he or she is feeling with your penis, you've got hands, they've got hands, you have a mouth, other parts of your body or sex toys. It doesn't make a lot of sense to try and hinge your or someone else's entire sexual satisfaction on one body part or kind of sex. When you're at an all-you-can-eat buffet, why only put one thing on your plate? Physical issues aside, we can safely say that one thing most people find most exciting about sex is novelty.
In other words, even when one given body part or activity often feels really good, most people still aren't going to stay very excited over time by doing the same one thing again and again: Sex is a lot more interesting when it's about whole bodies, not only a few inches of any one part.
Who does size really matter to most? We see the same kind of difference when it comes to men reporting how they feel about a female partner's breast size and the women reporting on feelings about their own breast size. When it comes to the appearance of our own sexual parts, the old adage "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" appears to often be false.
Many people will say what they're worried about with genitals is what a partner will think, but it's pretty clear the problem is usually with what folks think themselves, since partners tend to be the ones who are the least judgmental and the most accepting. If you really want to impress a woman, you're not likely to do that by bragging about your penis size or by being obsessed with your penis.