Just ask Prince Harry. The pair were spotted deep in conversation at the closing ceremony of the Invictus Games, and were deemed to be getting on famously. Which is just as well for Harry, as getting it right with Ragland is crucial to his future with Markle. The reason for this lies not in the unique circumstances of the British Prince and his American actress sweetheart, but in the relationship most women have with their mothers - one best summed up by the words: Prince Harry must remember the mother-daughter bond.
Who else can you ring up, well into adulthood, to ask whether the chicken fillets you bought at the weekend will still be edible today? Who will love you unconditionally? An overwhelming majority of women can answer: Ammanda Major, head of service quality and clinical practice at Relate , says: Sometimes the woman is sharing an awful lot with her mother, including details of her sex life, and the man can end up feeling there are three people in the relationship.
Will he be a good father to my future grandchildren? Ragland, 60, who is said to dote upon her daughter and the feeling is mutual , need not worry about the latter, at least. Like Carole Middleton before her, she can rest assured her daughter will be well looked after. Her distant ancestors were slaves and her great-great-great-great grandfather had been put to work in the Georgia plantations.
He was emancipated in after Abraham Lincoln abolished slavery. Permitted to choose a new surname to mark his freedom, he selected Wisdom - which Meghan wrote movingly about in an essay for Elle magazine calling it,"the choice he made to start anew.
He drew his own box. Understanding a potential mother-in-law and making her feel included is important in any family, Major says. The mother can fear the loss of her daughter because it can feed into feelings of abandonment and fears of having an empty nest.
But for many, the tensions between a woman and her mother-in-law can be all too present. Complaints about this other woman in our lives range from the little niggles - MIL letting herself into the house with her spare key, or sharing her old-fashioned views on family life - to the jaw-dropping: Usually most things will blow over.