Many preop TS women are understandably concerned about whether they will be able to fully enjoy and eagerly participate in lovemaking after SRS. Of special interests and concern is whether postop TS women can fully experience sexual arousal and orgasm. The ability to easily become aroused, to desire intimate and sensual contact, and to achieve sexual release through orgasm is a precious gift to bring into love relationships, especially when combined with a desire to give full and complete pleasure to one's love partner too.
A loss of these capabilities could ruin the woman's chances of experiencing her full humanity after transition, especially for finding and enjoying a passionate, deeply-bonded love relationship. However, as we'll see, SRS can provide those for whom it is right the chance to fully experience the joys of sex and lovemaking - and thus to finally enjoy a full human life. Myths vs Reality, and the decision to undergo SRS Many people simply assume that the loss of the external male genitalia will result in a complete loss of sexuality.
This very naive myth unnecessarily frightens many preop women, and it also furthers prejudice against postop TS women, who are often thought of by the general public as having "desexed themselves". Certainly a typical male would suffer a catastrophic impact on body image and libido from the loss of his external genitalia. However, it has long been known that with counseling and practice, even males who have lost their genitalia to cancer can recover the capability for arousal and orgasm.
Furthermore, intensely TS women are not "regular guys". They do not suffer a negative impact on body image as a result of SRS, but instead find a greatly enhanced body image. The experiences of countless Hijra girls in India demonstrates that even primitive forms of SRS do not desex transsexual girls and in fact helps many of them.
SRS has the opposite effect on intensely TS women as would the emasculation of a typical male. SRS usually releases and enhances the libidos of TS women, enabling them to frequently and fully "turn-on" and enjoy their physical sexuality and lovemaking, including achievement of orgasm during intercourse with a partner.
The myths and misunderstandings about the effects of SRS cause many preop TS women to remain in a state of indecision about having surgery. Although feeling an intense need to undergo SRS to achieve physical conformity with their gender identity, some preops may also feel extreme anxiety about whether or not they will still experience sexual arousal and orgasm after SRS.
This anxiety is enhanced by stories heard from many TS transition failures, including the cases of intense cross-dressers, drag queens and crossdressers who mistakenly underwent SRS for various sexual reasons and then found that their male libidos were greatly reduced and their male orgasmic capability eliminated.
There have been so many of these misguided cases that the urban myths about SRS have escalated over the years, and there is now a lot of confusion about what to expect after SRS. SRS Warning On the other hand, many other transsexual girls learn to visualize from their preop sexual experiences as Lynn did that they'll probably still "turn-on" sexually and be orgasmic as women after SRS: Many preop women hide their genitals by inserting the testicles up into the abdomen, and then tightly tucking the male organ back through the crotch with tight underwear or taping.
In this configuration, the penis cannot usually get enough blood supply for full external penile erection. Even though the external part of the penis cannot erect when tucked tightly, the girl nevetheless experiences the familiar female "glow" and warmth throughout her interior genital region when she is aroused, for example, by a man's warm attentions.
In addition, the corpora cavernosa shafts inside her body can become erect once the girl is sexually aroused, and that arousal feels really wonderful - even though the external part of the penis is flaccid.
Sexual stimulation by rubbing and caressing the genital area and the breasts can then lead to orgasm for a girl who is sufficiently aroused. From experiences like this, preop women can visualize that after undergoing SRS the remaining internal stumps of her corpora will still engorge and become erect, and that she can experience similar feelings of sexual arousal when she is postop.
In addition, the postop woman can now also experience wonderful sensations from caressing her clitoris, which, in contrast to the previously hidden penis, can now be openly played with without her experiencing angst about her body-image. There are thus many dimensions to postop women's sexuality, and the actual postop effects of SRS on arousal and orgasm vary greatly from case to case.
Those who are male-gendered, and who have male sexual urges focused in the external genitalia, are likely to experience great loss over time. Those who are "in between somewhere" will likely experience a mixture of losses and gains. Those who are female gendered and who have strong female sexual urges are likely to benefit greatly, as a whole new life of sensuality, sexuality and lovemaking opens up to them.
All of this is of course contingent upon the person having a normal-level of libido, having no "hang-ups" about being sensual and sexual, and also upon a successful surgical result. Thus the decision for SRS must be taken with great internal soul searching and introspection, and with complete honesty with oneself about one's own gender identity, body image and likely psychic reactions to the body changes of SRS.
This is especially true if sexual arousal and orgasm are very important in one's life. However, for those for whom SRS is the right thing to do, that surgery can release them fully from the physical gender trap they had been living in, and free them to experience their full humanity in sexual and lovemaking relationships. Initial sexual response of postoperative TS women: Entering a second puberty There is a wide range of libidos in postop women, just as in natal women.
Some women are very highly sexed, the majority are moderately sexed, and some are asexual and have little libido at all. This section is relevant for those postop women who have healthy libidos, who experience sexual arousals and who desire ongoing sexual fulfillment and orgasms. Most postop women having healthy libidos begin to experience their first postop arousals within a month or two after surgery. After a initial period of low sensations and even numbness, they then experience "turning on" due to engorgement of remaining internal erectile tissue corpora and spongiosum that was left during SRS.
The arousals produce a feeling of "erection", but one that is different than for guys, since it is inside their bodies. However, even these postop women will eventually begin to experience genital arousals and the onset of sexual desires if they have active libidos. After surgery, some women find that their adrenal glands the other source of testosterone do not produce enough to provide adequate libido or orgasm.
You may require a small amount of supplemental testosterone to regain functioning. The amount required is typically far below the amount that will cause any other unwanted side effects, such as hair growth. Not everyone requires this, but keep in mind that some do.
Although Estratest is a somewhat controversial treatment, many natal women began taking it after it was featured in a story on Oprah Winfrey's hugely popular television show in the U.
As a result of this news, and of advice like that on the Zen page, some post-op women who were experiencing difficulty in arousals and orgasms began using Estratest too, and some report that the therapy helps them.
These tablets contain either 1. There may be some kind of threshold effect involved here, whereby some women need a small amount of testosterone to maintain orgasmic capability. On the other hand, many other postop and post-menopausal women enjoy strong orgasms even in the complete absence of testosterone. In any event, once a postop woman begins experiencing arousals, the nerves in the clitoris and vulvar surfaces become highly sensitized, and sensual and sexy feeling permeate her body.
Then, just as during pubertal sexual awakening, she will automatically feel urges to play with her body and to masturbate. The arousals will gradually intensify as her genital area fully heals from the SRS. Masturbation and sexual activity can likely play a role in helping neural regeneration and sensitivity during this period.
There are many ways to masturbate, but one favorite way for girls to do it is to "rub on a pillow". The girl does this by lying face down on her bed, with a firm pillow between her legs. This way she can rub her vulva and clitoris on the pillow while squeezing it, putting pressure on her clit and also being able to thrust and thrash around.
At the same time she can play with her breasts and body with her hands. Alternatively, she can rub her clitoris with the fingers of one hand while squeezing her legs and thrashing around to stimulate her body. And there are many other ways to stimulate arousals and produce orgasms, including using vibrators and other women's sex toys.
Girls discover these ways just as automatically as boys discover "jerking off", even though girls have been more secretive about it our society in the past. While masturbating, the pubertal girl will suddenly begin to experience her first orgasms, and she is then on her way to developing her full sexuality as a woman. In just the same way, the postop woman needs to explore her new sexual anatomy and masturbate, and learn her new sexual responses and experience her first orgasms as a woman - learning what most girls do in their teens during puberty.
This ongoing pubertal aspect of immediate postop life can be very thrilling and exciting, but also very confusing and scary for the woman, much in the same way that the onset of sexual maturity is for any teenager. Monica's site stresses the need to gain experience with your new sexual responses prior to having intercourse.
It is also important to try to get over hang-ups about what's "OK" and what's "naughty". Then too, many woman enjoy experiencing playful anal stimulation, including using sex toys to overcome inhibitions and enhance arousals.
Most women also learn to use fantasies to trigger and enhance arousals and orgasms. Those fantasies can be used during masturbation, and then later used to help heighten one's experiences during intercourse with a lover. Thus we see that transition and SRS are just the very beginning: They enable the girl enter her new puberty.
What she will make of herself as a woman is yet to be determined! Some advice to postop women about finding the right lover and losing your virginity This section is aimed at postop women who have gained some experience with their new bodies and new sexual responses, and for whom "losing your virginity" is now a "goal". This can be a good thing to get behind you, because you'll be much more comfortable in the knowledge that you can really "do it", and it'll be easier the next time when it might really count.
By doing this you can get over your fears of whether you will pass or "look OK" in the sack, and whether your body or scars or whatever will lead to comments or difficulties. It turns out that most guys won't notice a thing even in very problematic cases as long you are sexually functional. Most guys just don't look very close. And there is such a wide range of vulvar appearances among natal women that most postop women look OK anyways.
So you'll soon be able to relax about all that, and feel comfortable "cutting loose" and enjoying lovemaking without being self-conscious. However, it is important to avoid doing it with just "any guy", especially someone whose persona or approach doesn't turn you on, or who doesn't try to make you feel good.
Instead try hard to find someone you have something in common with, and with whom you can test out if there is any "chemistry" in advance, before jumping into the sack.
And of course, you really should try to figure out if the guy is a nice person who won't get violent with you if he somehow "finds out". One mistake many girls make is to hope for too much and too quickly, and then becoming greatly disappointed with how sex feels. By expecting sex with "just any guy" to be fun, they can become extremely disappointed.
They may mistakingly think that guys know how to turn them on, instead of needing to get aroused themselves. They may simply discover that they have little or no genital sensation when they are not turned on, even with the man penetrating them and ejaculating into them. This can erroneously lead them to believe that they "lack sensation", leading to all sorts of fears and worries. However, not "feeling much" when having sex with a man while you are not turned on is pretty much the same for ALL women, TS or not!
It is a common experience nowadays among young teenage girls who cave in under pressure to "have sex with someone". It's not even a lot different from the situation a guy who isn't turned on faces while being pressured to have sex by a girl. Touching, rubbing and attempting intercourse simply do not feel good and do not produce results, unless you are turned on! That's why "being in love" with someone really does mean something folks! Only if your libido kicks-in and you get a feeling of "erection" or warm arousal, will all the external sensitive tissue begin to give really good sensation and will sex be fun and potentially lead to orgasm.
Also, just as for any GG, postop women should not expect much sensation from inside the vagina. Most of the sensation when you are turned on will be from the external clitoral area and the outer vulva for the TS woman there will also be strong sensations from the erect corpora and the prostate inside her.
So, the problem is how to find a guy whose presence and voice and warm touch makes you feel "melty", and who turns you on and makes you feel really comfortable and sensual and excited. You'll know it when it happens. Then definitely do jump into the sack and let your inhibitions go!