Sex Vaginal sex has never been any good for me. That was over a year ago. My boyfriend, I think, would prefer vaginal. This has made me very anxious. They may have their reasons for disapproving of anal sex.
But not all they said was accurate. Changing attitudes Anal sex is something people have done throughout history. That said, public conversations about anal sex have changed in recent years. Not to mention changes in mainstream media, self-help and porn - where in an effort to seem new, edgy, and exciting the depiction of anal sex has become more commonplace.
Being able to talk about anal sex, as with any other kind of sex, allows us to discuss pleasure, choice, consent and wellbeing. Here, anal sex is presented as painful, degrading and risky. So that might also tally with what you were told. This is not unique to anal. There are also those who see anal sex as in itself as degrading. Or the link with anal sex, bums and poo also stops it appealing to people who might view it as smelly or dirty. Wanting to penetrate a partner or be penetrated is not a sign a man is gay or bi.
People of all genders and sexualities can enjoy anal sex. You can also potentially pass on bacterial infections like e-coli or salmonella through rimming or putting fingers, sex toys or a penis in your bum and then into your vagina, or either of your mouths. That may be down to being told negative things about sex in the past. Or not being given much in the way of sex education.
It may be vaginal sex is never going to be your thing. But if there are underlying reasons for avoiding it, exploring and addressing those is sensible. Regardless of whether you want to ever have vaginal sex again. Your relationship You and your partner clearly have worked out together what feels nice for you, and you are certainly not unique in experiencing powerful orgasms through combined clitoral stimulation and anal penetration.
Talking, kissing, cuddling, sharing fantasies, exploring what kind of touch feels nice across each of your bodies broadens out what pleasure could mean to the both of you. You can get a lot more ideas of what might be good for the both of you via: