Finding and understanding those differences are the first step to having and maintaining healthy, passionate, and incredibly fulfilling sex life. Make sense so far?
Sex is not optional in his mind — To a husband, sex is about right up there on the list with eating and breathing. Can he survive without it? Husbands use sex to reconnect — Think of it this way: The handset may hold a charge for a while off the base, maybe even for a couple of days.
This is a huge boost to his self-esteem and overall confidence. You have to learn to accept the compliment as him being honest, and say thank you, instead of trying to play it off. And that leads me to my next point… Sometimes he just wants to look at you NAKED — I can already see you rolling your eyes, but hear me out.
Remember, you are his only sexual source! Not only will he love it, but you just might find yourself thinking about sex a little more during the day, leading to a greater chance of you desiring intimacy later that night. He loves it when you surprise him — By this I mean do something totally out of the ordinary, just for his benefit, and to see the look on his face.
A few examples would be: Yeah, but this time it might work. Come on, I really want to make love. Because guys have this strange tendency to make sexual rejection even with a good reason , a personal rejection.
Since the need for regular sex with his wife is so much a part of who he is, any rejection of that need, feels like a rejection of HIM to your husband. Remember, he has been working up the nerve to ask you for the past several hours most times. That way he feels like you understand he has a legitimate need, he feels like you care, and he feels like you want to help him as soon as possible.
He LOVES to see you turned on — There is nothing quite as sexy to a husband, as seeing his wife thoroughly turned on, and enjoying sex. If he feels like he is failing in bed, he is going to be discouraged in other areas of life too. Whispering a little encouragement in his ear in the process is a huge bonus too.
He sometimes sees sex as an adventure that you both are going on together. For example, say you are taking a hike through the woods together somewhere, and when you stop for a break, he makes a move toward turning it sexual.
Learn and observe what you husband likes in the bedroom or out…lol. What parts of your body drives him most wild? What turns him on the most? What turns him off? A wife who is willing to learn the ins and outs of what her husband likes most when it comes to sex, will have one of the happiest husbands on earth.
You made it through! I know, I know, us guys are a little weird. Most of all, your husband is longing to be accepted by you in this area. He wants to know that even though you may not understand his seemingly constant desire for you, you accept it as part of who he is, and are not only willing, but love helping him in the way that only his amazing, beautiful wife can. If you as a wife can make it a priority to do some of this stuff on even a semi-regular basis, your husband will be willing to conquer the world for you, and will be more than willing to be there for you emotionally, be strangely communicative, and you will feel closer to him than you would ever believe.