I also know that looking for signs a girl wants to be my friend AKA likes me in a platonic way can be pretty tough. I have no idea how women who identify on the LGBTQ spectrum know that other women are also bisexual or gay.
This curiosity about how lesbian women know someone else is a lesbian led me to my interest in this Ask Reddit thread , where one Reddit user asks queer ladies how they know another woman is queer. The answers showed me what I kind of suspected: That said, there are some ways you might be able to tell if a girl is into other females. Here, 10 queer ladies reveal how to know if a girl likes girls: Skip this Ad Next Short Fingernails mynamesbartsimpson: Girls who are into girls generally have shorter fingernails.
I flirt with everyone, and if they flirt back I take it as a sign. Usually straight girls pull out really early and just say they're straight. In other words, I assume everyone is into me until proven otherwise Pretty straightforward! Most of the time you can tell if someone is flirting with you or not. So, I tend to just get a vibe which is probably just a number of subtle signs that I can't fully articulate, but strung together ping my subconscious as queer.
I know that this is a long list of stereotypes, but some of these traits might ping for you. These can sound like stereotypes, but for some queer women, they're apparently helpful. Typically, i check out her physical aspects. Is her hair short? Are her nails short?
Check out her pants. What kind of shoes is she wearing? Also even piercings and tattoos can give away a queer girl. This answer is interesting, if not frustrating. Not all bisexual or lesbian women look the same! I honestly don't feel like there's any good way to tell except for paying attention to their body language.
Maybe I'd try to figure out ways to drop the hint without ending in an awkward rejection. Or maybe take those rejections with grace and in stride. I mean, they happen no matter who you're attracted to.
Might as well smile and let them roll off your shoulders. In that same vein, maybe it's best to open with something like that. That way, you don't start pining too soon. Man oh man, do I know about pining too soon. Pay attention to the way someone leans towards you, or away from you. Check out the eye contact situation. Pay attention to their tone of voice.
I just mention that I date women and keep conversing. Usually they'll eventually mention exactly where they are on the spectrum.
This takes days, though. You never know if the other person is studying you just as much, trying to figure out if YOU like girls too. Just say what your sexuality is, if you're comfortable with that, and then see how they react. It's just a vibe I get. It's hard cuz sometimes straight women flirt, too. I have no idea really, I need proof. No, but it was a popular answer, and so it means something!
I ask if they're on social media. If they are I read their profile. If their profile doesn't say then I jokingly ask about that in a list of other things that They didn't mention. Doing a little social stalking online can definitely be helpful in figuring out if a girl likes other girls.
If you can find her, look her up! I don't really know most of the time before talking to them somehow or meeting them on the internet. Bring up something about guys to see how they react. It might not be foolproof, but it could be helpful. I have no sense whatsoever of which direction someone swings.
I can't even tell when people are flirting with me So I just remain silent, unnoticed and single until I meet someone online with a profile that states their interests. Just because you aren't straight doesn't mean you can pick out every non-straight person out there! Just something to remember, guys. What do you disagree with? What are other signs a girl likes girls? Tell me in the comments. You can follow the author, Jessica Booth , on Twitter or Instagram.