Since I treated you last time to the internal dialogue I had before writing about fellatio, how about another peek into my brain? What should I call this post? You are going down. Quite a few things. Plus, my nose is kind of big.
And my— Self 2: I mean, why do you always joke about sex? You think sex is funny? Oh yes, I did. Several husbands have reported being physically aroused and emotionally moved by the openness of their wives when they can give oral sex.
But plenty of wives are nervous, resistant, or downright opposed to receiving cunnilingus the scientific term for a woman receiving oral sex.
Perhaps after learning more about it, you may open up to the experience — figuratively and literally. This was discussed in the comments section in my first Oral Sex post. I have studied this question, and here are my conclusions. According to most modern biblical scholars, the Song of Songs is about the sexual love between a married couple. In this Old Testament book, preserved as part of the holy scriptures, specific sexual acts are described.
In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. May my beloved come into his garden and eat its choice fruits! The contact of lips and tongue to genitals is not far different from hands or fingers on genitals. No stretching or painful penetration is part of the process.
Some have compared oral and anal sex. There is no comparison. The rectum contains harmful bacteria, is not designed for penetration, and usually involves pain for the woman. That practice has been covered in my post, Uh, No. With possible biblical precedent and no harmful physical effects, what are the objections to oral sex?
This is simply touching of another sort. Some believe it is unnatural because it is portrayed in pornography. Well, so is penetration. So where do the lips stop kissing? Must they stop before reaching genitalia? Of course, you must decide for yourself and live out your life in good conscience before God. Search it out for yourself. Decide based on the merits whether oral sex will be on your marital intimacy menu.
I honestly believe that God is fine with it being a part of the entire sexual experience, which does include penetration as the pinnacle of merging ourselves together as one flesh. First of all, the focus is the wife.
While I believe that sex should be mutually satisfying, there are benefits to focusing on one spouse or the other from time to time. In fact, it is satisfying to many spouses to give intense pleasure to their partner.
Have you ever held an ice cream cone and eaten it this way and that way? You can slurp with your tongue all the way across; give little licks along the edge or at the whipped top; suck the cream with your mouth; twirl your tongue around; brush your lips against the coolness; come at the ice cream straight on, sideways, or from any angle.
Now imagine you, lovely wife, are the ice cream. Can you see why that might feel good? Third, your husband likes that perspective. I really enjoy experiencing her orgasm from that perspective, it is truly amazing.
Because the husband can directly stimulate the clitoris, the mouth provides lubrication with saliva, and the mouth can vary in intensity, many wives report experiencing climax during oral sex. With vaginal penetration, that stimulation is indirect. That said, I personally think orgasm during intercourse is uber-pleasurable, but we can discuss that another time. Some wives even enjoy receiving an orgasm through oral sex and then finishing off the experience with penetration by the husband.
Godly sexuality is never about forcing or demanding sexual acts from your spouse. Find other activities that are mutually pleasurable.
The beauty of intimacy in marriage is that, while there are some restrictions, there is a substantial amount of freedom.