Telling Your Boyfriend in Person 1 Prepare an ideal setting. If you think that he will say yes and want to have sex right away, prepare your surroundings. Light a couple of candles and invite him over to watch a movie, listen to music, or play a game. Make sure that you have enough time and privacy to have sex.
Some relationship discussions are okay to have while you are out in public, but a discussion about something as personal as your first time together should be had in private and just between the two of you.
You may be sending signals that seem obvious to you, but he might not pick up on them. In that case, you might just have to gather your courage and tell him how you feel. He may just need a little more time. It is important to make sure that both of you are ready before you begin having sex. If you are too nervous to tell you boyfriend in person or you simply want to be able to plan ahead for your first time together, texting or calling him is a good option.
Or you can try something more suggestive, tell him what you're wearing or go with the classic "What are you wearing? When it feels right, ask him to come over and see what happens next. The next time that you alone together, use the opportunity to show him that you are ready to have sex.
Make sure that you know that he is ready for sex before you do try to seduce him. An email or handwritten note may be a perfect solution if you are having a hard time verbalizing the way that you feel.
Write honestly about how you feel and keep it lighthearted. An upcoming special occasion, like a birthday or holiday, might be a good time to tell him that you want to start having sex. Waiting until a specified date will give you time to prepare yourself and it will also make the occasion more memorable. Before you even think about what to say to your boyfriend, make sure that you feel ready for sex in general.
If you are considering becoming sexually active and have never had sex before, think about why you want to become sexually active. Consider your emotional readiness, knowledge of birth control and safe sex, your relationship with your boyfriend, and your personal beliefs and values. Whether you have been with other guys or not, your first time with someone should be special.
Purchase condoms and keep them on hand at all times, so that you are prepared for your first sexual encounter with your boyfriend.
Store a couple in your purse and in your nightstand. You should also have a conversation with your boyfriend about contraceptive options, so that you are both taking responsibility for your sexual health. Just relax and make a plan to discuss your feelings with him. If you want to make sure he is committed to you before you have sex with him, you should talk to him to gauge his ideas about where the relationship is headed. Just make sure to have this conversation with your boyfriend before you start sleeping together.
It will be much easier to discuss your hopes and expectations about your relationship before you have become sexual partners than after. You can strike up the conversation by saying: If you want to be more direct with him, you can ask him, "Where do you think we're headed?
You should have sex with someone only if you want to and are ready to.