Share this article Share The couple claimed at the end of their sex-fuelled year, they felt happier, less angry and less stressed. Since then, hundreds of journalists and other couples have taken the challenge — with varying success. One study that asked couples having sex about six times a month to double the frequency had a disastrous effect on their sex lives. They enjoyed sex less and were in worse moods than those who stuck to their norm. Sex expert Tracey says that typically, most couples will only find the time to have sex once a week Ask any couple trying for a baby: Most of us, sensibly, enjoy this level of frequency when young or at the start of relationships, then turn it down to more realistic levels.
The book, The Normal Bar, supports this finding. Published in and written by three, well-respected US scholars including sexologist Pepper Schwartz , it draws on thousands of surveys to find out what makes couples happy. Three to four times a week was the perfect amount for prime levels of happiness, according to the authors. A sizeable US study done earlier this year of 2, married couples found although couples who had more sex said they were happier, the benefit levelled off at once a week.
Why does this figure hit the jackpot? The longer you go without sex, the more the pressure is on to have sex for longer next time. But far from complaining about it, the couples surveyed by Gransnet users aged 51 to 58 said they felt extremely happy and satisfied in their sexless relationships with only 65 per cent rating sex as important.
This can also be the case for couples under 50, who both have low or no sexual drive, and are happy not to have it. A recent Gransnet survey showed that many couples felt extremely happy and satisfied in their sexless relationships with only 65 per cent rating sex as important Another well-respected US study also found the biggest predictor for overall happiness for couples was the relationship connection not sex. Change location to make yourself see your partner in a different light.
Be naughty; think edgy. Imagine someone else fancying them: Individual circumstances make a mockery or any statistic, no matter how reputable the study or convincing the argument.
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