Let's just get this out of the way right off the bat. In the last few months, I've had over 30 women ranging from rail thin to extra large naked in my bed and I would routinely ask them to hug their knees. You won't believe this Not one was exempt. Even my super fabulous professional model 6 foot tall friend Katie had rolls. The stomach pictures turned into some of my favorite images from the project When people say "you're gorgeous," believe them. I tend not to, and it's a cryin' shame. When people genuinely compliment you, it's because they really see it.
Try to not dismiss their perspective as wrong and assume that you know better. They see all of you. We see our flaws. The people who tell us that, silly. You're not stunning despite your body. You're stunning because of your body. There is a distinct difference. I grew up in a culture that would deem "unattractive" women as "special spirits. We are all much much more than our bodies, but our bodies are a beautiful part of us, too.
Beauty comes from the inside AND the outside. I am of the firm belief that every person is beautifu l , and so this leaves the inside to be the part that is the most telling when it comes to true "beauty. You're full of shit. This just happened to me for the first time in I'm considerably heavier than I was 6 years ago, and so when I ran up to my friend Eric for a hug and he picked me up with my heels in the air I had forgotten that it was possible; I had accepted a life void of being lifted.
Eric didn't suffer any injuries and walked away unscathed. You need to exercise every day in order to feel better about yourself. Well that's just silly. You're allowed to fall in love with yourself. This will be the scariest thing you will ever do, and that's okay. It will also be the most amazing albeit super gradual experience you will ever have. It doesn't make you narcissistic. It doesn't make you vain. It is liberating in every form of the word. It's also okay to have days where you don't love yourself.
And then realize that we've grown up learning and internalizing that we are not okay our entire life. For me, that's 26 years of self-hate indoctrination and brainwashing. It's going to take a lot longer than you think to reverse this thinking, and it's definitely not going to happen overnight. Allow yourself to have "weak" days. Cry, mourn, sob, yell, throw things. Then get up, brush yourself off, give the media the finger, and move forward because you're a warrior.
Everyone's boobs are uneven. If you have a lot of boobs, they might be way uneven. This is totally normal. There are people who prefer large ladies. And I mean all sizes of large. I thought that my best bet in life was to find a partner who accepted my fat. Give me a minute to hang my head and shake it at myself. Not only are there people who adore "thick" women, but a LOT of them who prefer it. This eventually ends up in an interesting territory which Marianne talks about here , but the point that I'm trying to make goes back to the "despite vs.
Here is what you need to know: You do NOT need to settle for a lover who is "okay" with your body. You have the right and millions of opportunities to find someone who is infatuated with your body. You deserve to be worshiped, woman! Fat chicks bang hot guys This was the most powerful realization for me. In line with the above paragraph, I knew that there would be someone that would find me attractive but the pool would be small and most likely full of guys I didn't personally find sexy.
So I would have to settle. After all, how could a conventionally gorgeous man tall and with tattoos of course like fat chicks? Weh-he-hell, let me tell you somethin': I was the one who had to sift through and pick the hottest of the hot. Ladies, over a hundred. People flipped their shit. Wilson's wife responded to that rubbish here , but the tweet speaks volumes about what the majority of people think unconventional women deserve.
Jesus Christ, it's annoying. I won't spill the details of my bedroom coming and goings, but let's just say this: I would recommend reading Emily's article on xoJane for a better explanation of what I'm struggling to say.
Riding during sex will NOT collapse his insides. Just trust me on this one, what you fear is totally false. Here's a great article that changed my life. Wearing whatever you want is a political statement. Throw style rules out the window. Wear the horizontal stripes. Wear the turquoise skinny jeans. Wear the see-through blouse. Wear the sweat pants. Wear the shirt that says "Does this shirt make me look fat? This is your life. You are fucking beautiful. I'm saying this with a straight face and seriously meaningful look where I maintain eye contact for an uncomfortable amount of time.
I know you don't feel like you fit into the category of gorgeous that our world creates. I know that it's hard. I know that it's a daily battle. But fuck their fascist beauty standards. The second you stop looking for a skinny model in your mirror and start looking at YOU Stop looking for flaws.
Stop looking for differences. You are more than enough. You are the best thing that has ever happened to you. And you are fucking beautiful.
Say it with me. What else belongs on this list? Share it in the comments below, and let's keep this conversation going. Reprinted with permission from The Militant Baker.