Fingering or hand jobs hand-to-genital contact Dry humping or genital rubbing Masturbation touching yourself Whatever sex means to you, being sexual with another person comes with a lot of responsibility.
Before you have sex, think about what things you feel comfortable doing, ask what the other person feels comfortable doing, and think about any risks involved — like STDs or pregnancy — and how to help prevent them.
It's just as important to think about what you DON'T feel comfortable doing — and then talk about it with your partner. And if you're in the middle of doing something that you thought you wanted to do but change your mind, that's OK, too.
You can stop any time you want. If you're going to have vaginal, oral, or anal sex, talk with your partner about how you'll help protect each other from STDs. If you're having vaginal sex, it's also important to use birth control if you don't want to get pregnant. These are all names for oral sex — using your mouth to stimulate another person's genitals.
Some people like oral sex, and others don't. Some people like giving oral sex but don't like getting it. Some like getting it but not giving it. All of this is totally fine and normal — it's up to you to decide what you're comfortable with, and let your partner know. Although it's less likely you'll get an STD from oral sex than from unprotected vaginal or anal sex, safer is always better. Use a condom to cover the penis, or a dental dam, cut-open condom, or plastic wrap to cover the vulva or anus to help prevent STDs.
Anal sex means penis-in-anus butt intercourse. Some people enjoy anal sex, and some people don't like it at all. Either way is perfectly fine. Sex should feel good and be comfortable for both of you.
Anal sex can hurt if you're not relaxed and don't use lubricant. Don't use anything with oil in it, like Vaseline, lotion, or baby oil. Oil-based lubes can weaken a condom and make it more likely to break. You can get safe lubricants water or silicone based in the condom aisle at drug and grocery stores. Listen to your body. If anal sex or any sex hurts, stop doing it. You can't get pregnant from anal sex.
Vaginal sex is when a penis goes inside a vagina. Let your partner know what feels good to you. You can get pregnant and pass STDs from unprotected vaginal sex. But there are a lot of different birth control methods that help prevent pregnancy. Just like with oral and anal sex, condoms can help prevent STDs. An orgasm is the release of tension that can happen during sex or masturbation.
Before and during an orgasm, you might notice changes to your body like: This is called ejaculation. You might be able to have an orgasm quickly and easily. Or you might need more time or a very specific type of stimulation. You might be able to have an orgasm when you masturbate but not when you have sex with a partner.
All of these differences are normal. Experimenting with what feels good can help you understand your body and what feels good for you. In fact, putting a lot of pressure on having an orgasm can make you or your partner anxious, which can make sex stressful and less enjoyable. Relax, and remember that pleasure, not orgasms, is the goal. More questions from patients: What is a dildo?
A dildo is a type of sex toy. Some people use sex toys to masturbate or have sex with a partner or both. Dildos are often shaped like a penis, and they come in lots of different sizes, colors, and materials. A different kind of sex toy is a vibrator. Vibrators run on electricity or batteries, and they vibrate buzz when you turn them on. Many people like the feeling of vibrations on their genitals, especially the clitoris, penis, and anus.
Vibrators also come in different shapes, materials, and sizes. Some are shaped so they can be inserted into a vagina or anus. Others are designed to be used on the outside of your body, like on the clitoris or penis. If someone who has an STD uses a sex toy, the body fluids on that toy can spread the infection to another person who uses that toy. Butt germs can cause STDs and other infections.