Answered 72w ago As with many other subjects, it really will depend on the man. They are all different, even if sometimes they seem all the same. In my 20's I couldn't even think of a boy my age to have a relationship with - they were not mature enough, and although sex with them was fun and pleasurable, I just did not value the same things they did, which made me look for older and more experienced men.
After a couple of experiments, I have to say that older men all between 14 and 17 years older than me in my case were more attentive, more interested in what I had to say, and more prone to intelligent conversations meaning about something else than cars, sports or girls and sex , which in turn got me much more aroused than the boys my age. That alone was sexier, and also made me feel more desirable and attractive.
I also found they invested a lot more in foreplay as opposed to the 20 year olds that already had their hands in my underwear 2 minutes after starting to kiss me. I am a firm believer in communication and have always tried to politely point guys in the right direction. They took more time touching me, and were more romantic, gentle….
Additionally, they genuinely liked to spend time with me and talk, which goes a long way. However, in my 30's I had a relationship with an older man whom I knew before and although he was and is a great friend, he is terrible in the sex department. That's when I learned what a misconception it was to think that all older men were better in bed than the younger ones. He did not listen to me at all and refused any form of non missionary position sex, unless he determined otherwise for some reason.
He appeared to like me being 30 and all fire when it came to sex, but then he was offended by the fact that I once brought a vibrator into his house; he refused to perform oral sex because he did not like it, he would never touch my vagina just refused it and sex on my period has labelled as disgusting and something no woman could ever like….
Among many other things, like not wanting sex more than 2 or 3 times a month we did not live together , or not wanting to go away with me for the weekend for us to spend time alone he lived with his daughters because we could sleep together at home just as well.
Everyone has their own preferences, but it felt like I was dating a 60 or 70 year old who had no interest in sex, and when he did, it was the most conservative possible. He never saw me orgasm, because it didn't happen at all during the time we were together, and he never even asked why or what he could do to change that. I became unhappy, felt neglected, unwanted, definitely not sexy and at times even thought I was to blame for valuing sex too much.
At a certain point I broke it off because I couldn't take it anymore, my self esteem was dying. And then I met a man who became my best friend and with whom I fell madly in love with…. Who seduced both my mind and my body, who made me feel the sexiest I have ever felt, with whom I have the most amazing chemistry and who rocks my world in every sense….
And with whom I never had so much pleasure in bed before because he listens to everything I say and to all that I don't say as well. I couldn't even believe it sometimes I still don't , but he sure proved me that men are all very different, and those pre conceived ideas we sometimes have aren't true at all.
We have been married for 2 years - and he is 3 years younger than me. So, sex with an older man can be good, but can also be lousy - what matters is not his age, but how he acts towards you. And that will depend on a lot of other aspects that have nothing to do with age. Older guys have a lot going for them experience, patience, technique, etc and a few things working against them don't get hard as easily, don't get as hard, longer bounce back time, etc.
I've had my fair share of older lovers and I'd say the pros outweigh the cons. The only thing I really don't care for and it happens with younger guys too, is being treated like a trophy or conquest, but this seems to be pretty common with guys so I've come to accept it. They learnt about sex the practical hands-on way - and it shows when they indulge in it. Sex with a mature age person is more sensual as it goes slower - and they are quicker to respond to cues from teir partner as to what they like.
Youngsters tend to run through the same standard cycle of sex acts that they have seen in xxx vids. They have good stamina, they know foreplay very well and experience is always good in sex. Girls who like to enjoy sex more always prefer older men to get full pleasure. They are more satisfying then the younger one. I have mostly had sex with uncles. As older ones are having more knowledge regarding sex. They also teach me a lot things related to sex, spooning and all.
They have great stamina.