Ask Anne Apr 15, Question: I recently found out that my husband is a cross dresser. I have been married to him for 23 years and have 3 teenage children. This is very upsetting to our family.
He refuses to see how this upsets us. He has a 21 year old son who is really having problems. He goes to work with bras and long fingernails on. He wears make-up, and I know that he has been seeing prostitutes for sex. I find it a turn off. What can I do? She does not represent herself to be a psychologist, therapist, counselor or professional helper of any sort. Her responses are offered from the perspective of a friend or mentor only.
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Do not stop your medication or change the dose of your medication without first consulting with your physician. How long has this been going on? Finding out about this after 23 years of marriage is tough to grasp. You need to decide what you want in this marriage. Your marriage is definitely experiencing some problems, to say the least.
Talk to your husband and tell him that you still love him, while letting him know how unhappy you are. See if the whole family will go in for therapy.
Let him know that his actions are affecting the entire family. It is no surprise that your son is having problems handling this. Another option if your husband refuses to seek therapy is for the family to sit down and discuss this situation rationally.
Hopefully you can work this out. I also want to remind you of the dangers your husband is exposing you to by having sex with prostitutes. There are many diseases that can be spread various ways not just sexually. Keep this in mind if you plan on trying to salvage your marriage.