Now she wants to help you keep things spicy and fresh between the sheets. Are you in need of an intimacy intervention? Dear Abiola, Men only want me for sex. What is wrong with me? I'm a year-old female. I know my self worth and I love me some me. I am an attractive girl with a model finish. I know this for a fact because I don't feel comfortable in tight, short clothing.
Only guys with girlfriends or wives approach me, which I find weird. I know I am worth so much more. I am a working professional at a top bank. I've never had a boyfriend and I want to grow with someone and have fun; not only casual sex. We are about to get all metaphysical up in here, sis. Sexual attraction is both an art and a science. I simply didn't have any clothes on. Marilyn Monroe once was invisible walking down a city sidewalk. You need to learn the shades of your own sexual power; and how to turn your divine feminine sexy energy on and off.
Here are your Goddess Action Steps: The word female belittles the totality of your power. Any old animal can be male or female. These titles describe genitalia and scientific body assignments. Only a human being can be a woman. Become more discerning and better be able to read people.
Who are these men you are spending company with? Where are you meeting them? Are you meeting them all in the club? Education, wealth, and age are not markers of maturity. However, where and how a man spends his time is. For example, you might want to ask your friends and family to introduce you to worthy individuals. You can also meet men in settings where you share common interests, classes, meetups, conventions, or religious events. Cut off the casual sex. If you are casually casting your pearls to handsome swine, the time has come to close the gate.
Make a commitment to yourself that you will date whomever you chose and not have sex until you are in a relationship. There are some women who only want casual sex -- and if that works for them great. There are some women who forgo all sexual intimacy until formal commitment - if that works for them, great!
If you want a Barack, you have to be a Michelle. Do you -- with personal honor and integrity. Learn to love the non-physical aspects of yourself. The world is a mirror. This means that our experiences often reveal what we truly believe about ourselves. You are clearly gorgeous. Now, I want you to go deeper to discover what else you bring to the table in a relationship. Start with a list of everything that you love about yourself.
What are the things you value in yourself beyond the physical? What do you love about your mind, your personality, your spirit, and your emotional intelligence?
When you begin to see yourself as more than just a pretty face and a hot body, your suitors will too. Learn to turn your sexual energy on and off. I had a one-on-one empowerment coaching client complain that every man she met online wanted to have sex.
When we delved deeper, it turned out that in her first or second conversation she was already talking about sexual positions and preferences. Once you get to know your prince you can let your freak flag fly.
Once he knows who you are as a whole person and vice versa , you can regale him with promises that curl his toes. Until then, save the sexy talk for a later date. You could be unknowingly sending out the wrong signals. We have all done that. You also may be naturally flirtatious. Many of us are. Just become more aware of how others are receiving your attention.
Check your own availability. A few years ago I had to face an ugly truth. Only unavailable men approached me because I was secretly unavailable.
How open and available is your heart to a real relationship with a real man? There are great, fully available men who approach us but they are invisible to us because we are not into them. What are the qualities that you are looking for?
You are not broken or wrong, gorgeous one. You just need to weed out these boys and add a layer of wisdom to your sexiness. Your king is waiting for you.