After a long day of work or caring for your kids, sex is often the last thing we think about. Some days, the very thought of having sex can make you feel even more tired! Follow these six steps for a mind-blowing sex night in: Get groomed and feel refreshed Take a shower or bath to feel fresh and energized for sexual play. Do your hair even if you are going to get it messy, feeling good about your hair is a confidence booster.
Put on something that makes you feel sexy — lingerie, softy and silky dress or shirt, or anything that makes you feel desirable. Engage in mindful relaxation Focus on belly breathing to engage the mind and body and release stress from the day. Ground yourself with meditation. Close your eyes, center yourself, and focus your attention on your body and breathing. Prime your body by stretching and moving every part. Stretching improves circulation, releases tension, and warms up the body for pleasure.
Set the mood Activate the senses as a form of arousal: Use scented candles or room spray. Essential oils cinnamon, rosemary, lavender, patchouli are known to evoke feelings of sexual desire. Music can trigger positive emotional responses and relax the body… or make the body want to move! Lighting can set the mood and make your environment more warm and inviting. Experiment with different colors of lighting such as a blue or red light — both known to boost arousal and sexual attraction.
Make your play space sex-ready including props pillows, colorful blankets, towels, pleasure devices, and lubricant. Foreplay fun Watch each other undress. Massage and prime the genital area using a lubricant or body oil. Let your partner know what feels good and tell them what you want. Let your body lead and relax your mind, take notice of all your sensations of pleasure. Ditch the goal-oriented focus and just connect with your partner. Move your bodies in a rhythmic motion that explores pressure, speed, and different positions.
Tell your partner something you enjoyed during the sex night. The time right after sex gives you a chance to reconnect and bond with your partner, make the experience better by: