They get a bad rep as dirty, vile places that gross old men go to for anonymous sex. Going to a bathhouse requires a certain level of open-mindedness, because the fact is that many bathhouses are filled with older gay men, and many of them do go there for anonymous sex, but that is neither gross, dirty, or vile. Shoes can be clunky and will probably get wet. Bring your cheapest, oldest pair of beach flip-flops. Women figured it out ages ago: At a bathhouse or sex club or circuit party this is doubly true: Bringing a douche means that worst case scenario is remedied by a trip to the bathroom.
I included this in my op-ed Going Clear: The most common form of G appears as a clear liquid, and you only need a few drops to feel the affects. Therefore it is impossible to determine whether or not a Gatorade bottle or water bottle has G in it, or how much.
An overdose on G can make you very sick and land you in the Emergency Room. A bad overdose can land you in the morgue. The best way to avoid G is to bring or buy your own drink and watch over it throughout the night.
Molly, or MDMA, on its own is relatively harmless, but often the drug is cut with other substances that can make it dangerous.
Meth is one of the most addictive substances on the planet right up there with sugar and nicotine, which are miraculously legal , and is a particular plague for gay men. And if the bathhouse has a pool, as many do, you can swim. Just remember that you are, in fact, at a bathhouse, so if advances are made or sex is happening just around the corner, you are where you are for a reason.
It might not end up being your thing. Bathhouses are just bathhouses, nothing more or less. They were once a staple of gay life, and now they are scarce relics of a cruise culture that is rapidly disappearing.
The most written-about gay bathhouse was the infamous Everard Baths in New York , which closed in Some say bathhouses have been replaced by hookup apps like Grindr and Scruff.
While both claims hint at the truth, the latter is more of a politically charged publicity stunt than a true change of gay behavior. Visit the annual Black Party in New York if you think gay life has gone tame. The first time I went to a bathhouse, I went with a buddy who knew what to do, who had my back if I got nervous, and would leave if I wanted to leave.
Bars, clubs, and parties are always better with someone you trust — your local bathhouse is no different.