Brooklyn Beckham, son of David and Victoria Beckham, was featured on a magazine cover, and his appearance was met with a slew of inappropriate comments from older women. If the tables were turned, would parents allow the harassment? How well do you know your family sitcoms? Beckham take this opportunity to help publicly shutdown the practice of sexualizing minors of either sex by sending down a very public Red Card to all those women who are behaving badly over their son.
One example, one of the few more tame examples: Brooklyn Beckham knows I'll be waiting for him when he turns 18 right?
I have four sons, ages 20, 18, 15, and 10, so I am keyed-in to the double-standard that seems to be present when it comes to ogling young boys. While many of these people may be harmless, the social acceptance of the behavior has a very negative impact on the lives of the non-famous.
Two years ago, a reader in her mids, began contacting me via Facebook to ask for my help in getting a teenage boy, age 16, away from a mother. The result was that at each and every stage of the case someone in authority smirked at the thought that this handsome teenage boy was in potential danger from an older woman they deemed unattractive, and therefore not a legitimate threat.
While the majority of sexual harassment cases consist of a man in the role of harasser, sexual harassment can come from men or women , according to statistics by Catalyst analysis, a firm which analyzes workplace trends, which looked at data from the US Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. This double standard needs to be brought to light and parents of boys being harassed must come forward and make their cases known, because there is strength in numbers. In the case of the boy whose family I tried to assist, I believe the woman providing the unwanted sexual attention needed help from a mental health professional.
It is often said that victims of sexual harassment and crimes need to understand that these kinds of crimes are not about sex but violence, control, and other emotional issues on the part of the harasser. Sadly, the people in authority in this case were dismissive to the mother, father, victim, and me.
They just wanted it all to go away. They had lost all faith in the system. The offender vanished with her family later that week. The boy graduated and immediately entered the military. His mother and I lost touch as the sadness and the humiliation of what had happened to this boy weighed on us both.
Through it all, the only agency that treated the situation with the gravity it deserved was the public school system. There was nothing I could do to stop the predator, who is now in another town somewhere.
The only thing I can do is tell the cautionary tale when the opportunity arises. Parents reading the story can pass it on.