Please note that this information is copy written and can not be reproduced without consent of the author. They begin to look old and worn. Like a toy that has been used over and over again begins to lose its physical appeal, so does a person who continually has sex outside of marriage. Many girls who are sexually active and taking birth control gain up to 25 lbs.
This unnecessary weight gain can also alter your appearance. I personally recognized a change in my physical appearance after I lost my virginity. I remember looking through my pictures one day and I came across a picture of myself during my senior year in high school as a virgin , and a picture taken during my freshman year in college after losing my virginity.
It may sound strange, but somehow I looked harder. It really hit me at that moment how much of myself I had lost. Teenagers however have more odds stacked against them than older women do. Statistics suggest teens are two times more likely to die in childbirth or pregnancy than older women are.
They have difficult deliveries, scarring, stretchmarks, low birth weight babies, along with the standard sagging breast and tummy, weight gain, nausea, tears, and dark circles under their eyes. Why would you want to deal with all of this unnecessary drama in the prime of your life? Could this be why God tells us to stay pure until we are married? He knows the impacts of sex on our body. The same way your earthly father wants to protect you from harm, God desires so much more to protect you from the effects or wages of sin on your body and your soul.
Have you ever seen the commercials with attractive young people who are talking about having herpes? They are insulting our intelligence.
If you catch them you have them for life. I have a friend whose little sister contracted herpes the first time she had sex.
This can lead to a perpetual cycle of self-destruction. You develop low self-esteem, low self-worth, and diminished expectations of yourself. In many cases, the devastation that comes from giving a holy thing your body, the temple of the Holy Spirit to an unholy cause, physical gratification outside of marriage will lead to feelings of emptiness, embarrassment, and confusion.
You begin to question everything about yourself and the world, as you know it. Like Adam and Eve you realize your nakedness before God, and because you are not equipped to deal with it at such an early age, you sink into an abyss of self-loathing and destructive behavior. I remember feeling super insecure about almost everything after I had sex. If I felt insecure about it before sex, it was only worsened afterward.
Here is a poem I wrote in college after breaking up with my boyfriend. I had lost my true self while living a life of compromise and people pleasing. I found myself in the midst of an Identity Crisis. Where do I fit in? What are the defining lines of my existence? My eyes tell the story of my own confusion. Searching I find temporary shelter in my role as friend, sister, student.
Still my soul longs for more. The wayside compliments of passerbyers, male-suitors, and insecure women leave me the more bewildered. Exactly what do I call myself? I seek a mirror that can reflect to me my true self. My heart aches from isolation.
Do I base my esteem on my looks, achievements, or friends? Does anyone truly know me? Can I say that I know myself? Think of it this way, when you get on an airplane you are usually allowed a piece of carry on luggage to keep items you will need during the flight accessible.
Soul ties can be considered carry-on luggage. It is unwanted, hindering, emotionally draining baggage that attaches itself to your soul everytime you sexually involve yourself with someone outside of marriage. Not only are you carrying on the baggage of the person you have sex with, but every person they had sex with and so on and so on. When you begin making bad decisions, you often find yourself surrounded by others who are making the same bad decisions.
You have had sex. You are always worried some other girl will steal your boyfriend from you. Life becomes very stressful. After having sex I was a wreck. Whenever I would go out with my boyfriend I would accuse him of starring at other girls. Though at times he was looking, many times I was just overreacting out of insecurity. I felt so vuleranable that it caused me to mistrust everything he did.
If he had to study with a female student I had a fit. The fact that I was acting so unstable was very frustrating because it was totally out of character for me.
But suddenly, I became this heap of dramatic, irrational emotions doubting everything and everybody. It was a mess! The opening musical selection in the movie Grease has the characters Danny and Sandra Dee telling their friends about their summer romance.
Innocent, chaste, Sandra Dee tells the girls how romantic and gentlemanly Danny is, and how tender and innocent their summer was together. He got friendly holding my hand. She got friendly down in the sand. We made out under the dock Sandra: Many young women have their reputations smeared because the guy they are dating or went on a date with is too embarrassed to admit that nothing happened. Unfortunately, the twisting of facts has ruined many reputations.
Emotional Broken hearts- Sex outside of marriage almost always ends with a broken heart. Once your heart has been broken your whole outlook on life and love are different. Recovering from a broken heart is painful and can scar you for many years if not a lifetime.
Focus on doing things that will encourage a healthy emotional life and not a broken, crushed spirit. If you feel like you are getting too emotionally involved with a guy which is easy to do , take a few steps back and really try to look at the relationship for what it is. Are you romanticizing the relationship making it more than it really is? Are you thinking more highly of your boyfriend than you ought to? Does he feel the same way about you emotionally as you do towards him?
These are important questions to answer before you commit yourself emotionally in a relationship. Crying, fear, stress, depression, apathy, isolation, and hopelessness crowd your mind and cause your emotional growth to be stifled. You have no clue what you want anymore. One minute you are in love, the next minute you are disgusted by the very sound of his voice. You do things you later regret and say things you wish you could take back.
Look at these two poems I wrote at the end of a relationship shortly after breaking up and once I realized we were not getting back together.
The drastic change in emotion is almost funny, but knowing the pain I felt, it is actually quite sad. Pitiful, sad, pitiful and sad! I was gone, lost in space. My image of this guy at that time in my life was obviously unbalanced. If you think that was bad wait until you read this: You No More What should my priorities be? Wondering why you do what you do when you did what you did to me? Or Should I simply, carefully, lovingly Get my act together?
What should my goals be?