History has shown that for every good looking, intelligent, successful man; there are probably rumours as to that person's sexuality. Nobody can just sit on the sidelines and accept that a guy like Cary; who was brilliant with people, charismatic, kind, loving , attractive, athletic and very intelligent ; was a human being and leave it at that.
Cary was a person born into privilege and he was my friend. I worked my way into being successful, but was born into a struggling family. Cary took me around Manhattan when we were younger and made me feel like I belonged. He didn't care about pedigree or what he could get out of somebody; he was just an incredible guy who seemed to love reaching his hand out and being kind.
You didn't have to be rich or have a pedigree to be his friend. Unlike, the Upper Eastsiders with whom Cary was raised; he didn't walk around with his nose in the air or try to act like he was an incredibly wealthy, talented or better than the rest. I am not gay and I will tell you that Cary dated and had more beautiful women lusting after him without putting forth any effort than anybody I have ever seen; including those who devoted their lives to such conquests..
Cary was a lady's man and the list of women that he dated looks like a roster for The most beautiful women who have walked the Earth. These women were not beards. Cary didn't have to appear any certain way to anybody, Cary was genetically wired to have the disease of addiction.
I've never seen anybody on the planet who suffered from it in the way that he did. Addiction takes a lot of great people to a lot of dark places and it took Cary to places where he should never have been. It was in these dark places where many of you met a man who had been beaten down and had lost himself, For you people to celebrate the downfall and the destruction of such a great guy is evil and wrong.
Let him rest in peace. Do you think that Cary would have started trashing all of you guys or writing in appropriately about any of you had the shoe been on the other foot? Cary would probably be doing every thing he could to console your families and try to make their loss easier because Cary made the World a better place. Can any of you say that this gossip and character assassination is something for you to be proud of?
Why don't you guys go out and try to do something kind for somebody else? Why don't you people go out and try to help somebody who is suffering from a fatal disease instead of preying on his vulnerability?
All of you took a lost soul and you took advantage of him and you all were there for his downfall. The fact that you sit and write about it like it's some special glorious thing is evil.
Do you people have families? Do you people have souls? Do you think that any person would be happy or pleased to know that upon their untimely death, that those who preys on him sat and joked around about it in a perverse and gauche way.
None of you were there when he was on his way up. Why don't you all just let it go and go get some help. Cary was a rock star and a gentlemen. Nobody took any pleasure in his downfall or the pain he caused himself and those who loved him.
I used to tell him that people did drugs to pretend that they were as special as he was. His problem stemmed from his inability to accept himself, and the pressure put on him by his family and ultimately by himself. He was truly bisexual and loved others almost as much he was loved back. His problem was that he never quite believed it.