YouTube Channel Search for: Email Address As impossible as it may seem, becoming celibate after being sexually active is possible. And it is possible to do it with grace and without feeling like your body is going to explode from the need of wanting to have sex with someone.
I am celibate, I have been celibate for several years, and I currently do not feel I have to jump the bones of some random man because I am in heat. If you want to read my blog on why I stopped having sex then you can read my blog here, to get the full story on why I made that decision. Despite what you may believe about becoming celibate after being sexually active I have to clear up a few myths that many people may think about those of us who choose to become celibate.
That way if you are thinking about becoming celibate after being sexually active, you understand that there is nothing wrong with you or you sex drive, because you want to withdraw from sex. Becoming celibate after being sexually active myths: You must not like to have sex. I do enjoy sex. You must not be a very sexual person or comfortable in bed. I am very comfortable with myself and my sex life when I had it. Celibacy is not about not being comfortable with having sex. It is about something deeper.
If you fail with becoming celibate, that means you cannot do it and you mine as well give up. I tried to become celibate many times for a couple of years before actually succeeding. I am celibate by accident, if I have a boyfriend I would probably be having sex. It is not something that you do because you do not have any options around. It is something that you choose to do because it is the right thing for you and your body no matter who is around and who you are dating.
I have written a blog about the benefits of becoming celibate which you can read here. Choosing to become celibate is not just about the sex. It is for the benefit of the person deciding to do it. I am sure that if you are considering becoming celibate after being sexually active you can relate to these things. You have felt used and abused after having sex with someone. The situation may have went something like this.
They had sex with you, dumped you eventually, and you are sitting here wondering why you wasted your vaginal walls on this man all for you not to be together anyway. You may keep jumping into sex too soon.
Read my blog here on having sex too soon , and then you keep getting dumped or do not hear from the guy after you have sex with him. You may want to get married and you realize that all the men you have had sex with, you are not married to them now. So you want to go about your relationship in a different way since having sex without a ring did not work for you before.
No one wants to feel that someone is just attracted to them for their body, for their sex, or to put their self in a position to be slept with and then dumped. Typically when a woman decided to become celibate after being sexually active, it is because having sex is just not doing it for them anymore.
And if you find yourself feeling like you are in a situation, where sex has taken over your relationship or you start to just feel like sex is over crowding your judgement. Remember when I told you that I tried a celibacy several times and failed several times. That is nothing to be ashamed about. Because eventually it did work out. When I finally did succeeded at becoming celibate there was things that I finally made me successful. First, I stop putting myself in bad situations If you did read my blog, why I stopped having sex.
Then you would have read a story about me, getting kicked out, on my birthday, in the middle of the night, for another women I am paraphrasing such an embarrassing experience that I never wanted to happen again.
I did not want to have that feeling anymore, I did not want to be blinded by sex anymore, and I did not want to give the man the satisfaction of thinking that he could have his cake and eat it to. And since I could not control him or any other men; I decided to control myself. And once I decided to control myself and who I gave myself to, I no longer had those incidence in which I mistook sex for love.
And saving myself the pain on having another situation like that was alleviated the hardness of being celibate. Because truth be told I am much happier now. Second, I stopped being ruled by the flesh I realized that I was being ruled flesh.
I wrote about this in the resist the devil and he will flee blog post click here to read. I did not know what being ruled by the flesh was until I actually realized that I had a little lust demon inside of me.
The reason why it seemed like it was hard to become celibate is because I had a lot of lust inside of me that I could not control. But once I controlled it, not having sex became a lot easier. Becoming celibate after being sexually active how you can do it. Do not watch porn, nude magazine, and stay away from lustful images. I myself drink so I do not expect you to never drink if you are of drinking age.
But getting drunk to the point that your inhibitions are compromised will make you more likely to have sex. Do not put yourself in a compromising position.
I wrote about this on how to maintain your celibacy while in a relationship which you can click here to read. That means not going over his house in the middle of the night to spend the night to cuddle with no clothes on. You are more likely to have sex when you put yourself in these situations. I also wrote about this in my being a single mom and being celibate blog. Many men may try to tell you that because you have already had sex that you do not have the right to be celibate.
Choose to ignore that advice and choose to ignore him. No one has the right to tell you what you should and should not be doing with your body. Or better yet, tell him to empty out his bank account and give the money to you. He will probably tell you that you do not have the right to his money, because you are not his wife and he has no obligation to you. Which will prove your point. You have no right to tell him what to do with his money, just like he does not have the right to tell you what to do with your body because you have no obligation to him.
I do not care what your man says, what your friends say, and I do not care if you just had sex yesterday. What you do with your vagina and who you let in and out of it, is YOUR business.
And no one has the right to tell you how to feel about it. As someone who has been there, done that, and is still doing it; celibacy is not some depressing thing where you just cannot wait to have sex again. In all honestly, I do not even think about it. Then sharing is caring, so feel free to share this information with them. All you have to do is join Sophie-stication Nation, AKA my email list where you will get the book for free.
As well as other freebies, newsletters, and tidbits that becoming a part of my email list provides. Just click on the picture below to join. AND Last but not least. Help me help you. If you can fill out this survey really quick it will help me know what type of content you want to see from me.