Click here for an amazing post with resources for ACoNs. Click here to open all the other RBN subreddits multi This is a support group for people raised by a parent with toxic, self-absorbed or abusive personality traits, which may be exhibited by those who suffer from cluster B personality disorders. Because narcissists rarely seek care, few of our parents have a formal diagnosis.
So in this space, "narcissist" is a term used loosely to refer to a variety of conditions, and is not used in a clinical sense. We are not professionals and cannot diagnose anybody. Please share your stories, your histories, your fears, and your triumphs. What is a narcissist? Trait lists are here and tactics that narcissists use can be found here. While they are titled traits specific to mothers, fathers can have these same traits.
If you suspect you may be a narcissist, Read Help! I Think I am a Narcissist! Click here for more detailed information on the rules of this sub, our trigger warnings and our tagging practices.
No posts about politicians or political parties. No personal attacks, name calling, or bullying. No slurs or victim-blaming. Speak with your upvotes. Do not derail the posts of others. Advising anyone in this group to commit suicide or referring them to groups that give this sort of advice will result in an immediate ban. I can't believe I have to write this rule, but, apparently, I do. Narcissists are NOT allowed to post or comment here.
Please refrain from posting "uplifting" or "ACoNs are an inspiration to me" or "I love all of you. Instead, please support our posters directly by commenting directly on their posts. We do not want our subreddit littered with general uplifting.
Let's keep the people who NEED support in the spotlight and give them direct support! When you comment, assume a context of abuse to all posts. Comments and posts that are hurtful or made without a basic understanding of the rules or subject matter discussed here will be removed. Exercise respect for each other and follow Reddiquette. Please note that the mods may remove posts and comments at their discretion to preserve a respectful, supportive atmosphere in this sub.
Your tone matters when responding to others -- be kind! In general, be most excellent to each other, don't advocate things that will land the OP in deep water and be aware of your tone. Posts flared as "Support" are monitored much more closely for tone to ensure OP gets the support they need.
No generalizing about groups of people. This includes race, religion, profession, gender, political party, age, ethnicity, etc. No advocating abusive practices.
This includes current controversial ideas in discipline, medicine, or science that are abusive or misinformative. We stick to the verifiable truth as best we can on RBN, and to advocating healthy practices. No encouragement of illegal drug use or self-medication without medical supervision, and no advising against proper medical treatment.
No asking or offering of gifts, money, donations, etc. No GoFundMe, crowdsourcing or fundraising sites. Flaming will not be tolerated. No links or recommendations to hate groups. No posts or comments advocating violence, murder or revenge even in jest. No posts about N-kids. Please only post about people you know well personally.
Otherwise you can post your stories here. Please flair triggering content such as graphic physical abuse, sexual abuse or animal abuse. The flair button will appear under your post after the post has been submitted. When you link to a post or comment, please use a np.
Posts or comments that encourage brigading will be removed. No pure image posts - Memes, etc. Moderation in this group is always biased FOR the OP the person who made the post - not the commenters. For example, if an OP does not appreciate comments of a religious nature, the moderators will defend the OP's boundaries.
If an OP prefers comments of a religious nature, the moderators will also defend that boundary, for example. This is a support group - we are all here to support the OP. We often see commenters confused and feel that any comment should be allowed, because this is a support group.
When you write your own post asking for support, we will also be biased for you. Please keep in mind that the mods here are unpaid volunteers with their own busy lives and jobs and struggles.
We cannot read every post or comment. We are not omnipotent. While you're at it, check out Reddiquette. Not all the guidelines are appropriate for this group, but most are.
It's a good baseline for behavior on Reddit. Disagree with a Mod decision? Modmail reaches the entire Mod team, we will review and respond as soon as we reasonably can. Rules lawyering will not help your cause.